Back 15-20 years ago, with the other couples I realized most men at that time did get it, it just wasn't that often. The wives were decent enough to give him some puzzy every so often. And the occasional bullied and sexless man ( cvcking a man is taking his power )... But to come to the acceptance that today in 2020, MOST married men are sexless or near sexless is a travesty. So feminism took over marriage.
It's feminist idea of "just because it's your boyfriend or husband doesn't mean you have to have sex with him" and they don't have to... But they've taken it one step further, and it's literally a "control trap", where if your married or a boyfriend with one of them, they might have a sexlife but you won't.
What a nightmare.
The whole mating environment, including marriages, have gotten worse since the 2000-2005 era (15-20 years ago). Let's also keep in mind that 2000-2005 wasn't a spectacular era either for relationships. I was 17-22 during that time frame so I was participating in the environment in that era as well as now.
I've never married. I've never been close to it. There was a time where I would have been open to possibility of marriage. I am not open to it now. It is just a bad idea. The divorce laws stink and a frigid sex life with the wife is a real possibility as well. By aggregating numerous disparate statistics, there's an ~80% chance of AT LEAST one of the following 3 things happening to a man who marries:
-Divorce
-Affair (either you cheating or her cheating. With Millennials, women are cheating more)
-A bleak, ongoing relationship that only continues to exist based on inertia and one not frequently including sex
I don't want any of that. If someone wants to do extended monogamous relationships, it is best to only do them in time intervals of 2-5 years and exit before the inevitable drop in sex frequency. If someone makes it to 5 years and sex is still frequent (averaging 2 days per week+), then it's worth continuing but it is likely on borrowed time.