"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Field Report - HB7

darksprezzatura

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Met a girl from college.

Sweet. Acted childishly. Enthusiastic. Funny. Very feminine.

Took her on an adventure sport, she performed well. Doesn't drink, doesn't smoke. Intelligent.

Heart pumping, leaned in for a kiss. Felt resistance. Brushed it off, kept the evening going great. Lots of kino, she felt into it.

Red flags:

Diseases running in the family.
Mole on her eyelash makes edges her to HB6
Possible tumour history.
Army brat.
Big purse.
No real hobbies as such.
Planned a date on Sunday, she agreed - I had to cancel as I'm leaving. Asked her out today. She refused (has plans)

Her refusal flicked me off, only because she knows im leaving tomorrow, she didn't offer to reschedule or push for tomorrow, I ghosted her.

Chemistry was intense, spent hours together mountain climbing.

Planning to see other women and workout, but the feeling of loss of a bang seems intense especially after time spent together.

This place helps me refocus and acts as closure.

Her action spoke louder than her words.
Another one bites the dust.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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These red flags you listed.. they're red flags why?

If you like this chick give it one more shot man. It's nbd.
 

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Met a girl from college.

Sweet. Acted childishly. Enthusiastic. Funny. Very feminine.

Took her on an adventure sport, she performed well. Doesn't drink, doesn't smoke. Intelligent.

Heart pumping, leaned in for a kiss. Felt resistance. Brushed it off, kept the evening going great. Lots of kino, she felt into it.

Red flags:

Diseases running in the family.
Mole on her eyelash makes edges her to HB6
Possible tumour history.
Army brat.
Big purse.
No real hobbies as such.
Planned a date on Sunday, she agreed - I had to cancel as I'm leaving. Asked her out today. She refused (has plans)

Her refusal flicked me off, only because she knows im leaving tomorrow, she didn't offer to reschedule or push for tomorrow, I ghosted her.

Chemistry was intense, spent hours together mountain climbing.

Planning to see other women and workout, but the feeling of loss of a bang seems intense especially after time spent together.

This place helps me refocus and acts as closure.

Her action spoke louder than her words.
Another one bites the dust.
Why is a big purse a red flag?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Met a girl from college.

Sweet. Acted childishly. Enthusiastic. Funny. Very feminine.

Took her on an adventure sport, she performed well. Doesn't drink, doesn't smoke. Intelligent.

Heart pumping, leaned in for a kiss. Felt resistance. Brushed it off, kept the evening going great. Lots of kino, she felt into it.

Red flags:

Diseases running in the family.
Mole on her eyelash makes edges her to HB6
Possible tumour history.
Army brat.
Big purse.
No real hobbies as such.
Planned a date on Sunday, she agreed - I had to cancel as I'm leaving. Asked her out today. She refused (has plans)

Her refusal flicked me off, only because she knows im leaving tomorrow, she didn't offer to reschedule or push for tomorrow, I ghosted her.

Chemistry was intense, spent hours together mountain climbing.

Planning to see other women and workout, but the feeling of loss of a bang seems intense especially after time spent together.

This place helps me refocus and acts as closure.

Her action spoke louder than her words.
Another one bites the dust.
Foolish reasoning, but whatever you wish. You are now being as picky as the ladies.
 

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Foolish reasoning, but whatever you wish. You are now being as picky as the ladies.
Funny on twitter there was a post about how dating sites hard to find decent guys. I then posted about how women are too picky and list far too many qualifiers for being already damaged goods on old. Well female twitter users didnt like that and one even said they're picky because they dont want to be raped.
 

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Funny on twitter there was a post about how dating sites hard to find decent guys. I then posted about how women are too picky and list far too many qualifiers for being already damaged goods on old. Well female twitter users didnt like that and one even said they're picky because they dont want to be raped.
Yea, many dudes are becoming too feminine on their requirements just to have sex. It's unreal.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I deleted her number and hit the gym.
Talked to a couple of more women, played some music and just kept her out of my mind.

By the end of the day she reinitiated contact and she is enthusiastic to meet today.

She blurted out, "we aren't having sex " .
We all know what that means.

I do think she's a cool girl to hang with so I'm just going to meet her to practice my game.

Let's see what happens boys.
 

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These red flags you listed.. they're red flags why?

If you like this chick give it one more shot man. It's nbd.
Im going for it. Thanks man.
I just prefer investing my time in a woman who shows high interest, instead of converting them from low interest to high interest.

Foolish reasoning, but whatever you wish. You are now being as picky as the ladies.
Since when is that a bad thing?

you want to bang her or make her your wife? Start out just looking to bang them and worry about relationship potential after that.
Good advice. Thank you for the reframe.

Why is a big purse a red flag?
In my experience the bigger a woman's purse is or her hoop earrings, the more deceptive she has been.
It makes no sense, but it's a pattern I've seen.
 

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Im going for it. Thanks man.
I just prefer investing my time in a woman who shows high interest, instead of converting them from low interest to high interest.



Since when is that a bad thing?



Good advice. Thank you for the reframe.



In my experience the bigger a woman's purse is or her hoop earrings, the more deceptive she has been.
It makes no sense, but it's a pattern I've seen.
You're just f ucking them dude. Stop being so picky. In an out a few times and then switch; if you like.
 

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You're just f ucking them dude. Stop being so picky. In an out a few times and then switch; if you like.
To fuvk them, I need to escalate physically.

I generally do that by making out.

Today I'll judge her body language and lean in when she continues to kino.

If she resists again, on to the next one.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The woman flaked despite continuing to reinitiate contact

Note to self:

From a game point of view, women reinitiating contact does not imply high interest always.

Next step:

Began NC immediately. It's always better to make a move and judge a woman by her actions and reciprocations than words.

Keep lifting, keep spinning.

Date: 29/12/2019 - 60 days hard NC

Peace
 

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Just send her a picture of your **** and say 'well if you change your mind" and go NC.
But ONLY if you have a nice Johnson.
 
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