"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Post-sex no contact

Snag87

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I've seen dating coaches advocate never being the first to initiate contact after sex. The reasoning being the first person to contact cedes control. If the girl never contacts you after you simply never speak to her again.

Any opinion on this strategy?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The sex itself isn’t that much of a deal changer from your usual post date recontact procedure. If anything, I would say a few days more time than your usual 5-7 day or whatever recontact time, but next to four day recontact time will probably signal thirsty horndog to her, then the ‘you just want me for sex’ b.s. may start.…
 
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Depends how good the sex was! Just kidding, I've done both. Don't agree. If you have her an academy award winning performance I wouldn't worry about contact after.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Suave88

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I've seen dating coaches advocate never being the first to initiate contact after sex. The reasoning being the first person to contact cedes control. If the girl never contacts you after you simply never speak to her again.

Any opinion on this strategy?
I am my own school. If I liked the sex and I am sure she liked me. You bet I will call her back. The time I wait depends. However, in my experience, I don't call, I just go see her.
 

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To say that contacting someone is a forfeit of control is outright ridiculous, although still true for those who believe it is so and act in accordance with their silly beliefs. Example, a guy believes he will lose his control by contacting a woman, if he does so he will have ruined his own confidence and act in ways to give her all the control. He could have chosen to assert control at any point after that action, but didn't because he was deluded by his own false belief without recognizing it.

It's basic self sabotage. Easily preventable and who contacts who first is irrelevant when it's recognized that there's a choice for every passing moment, to assert oneself or voluntarily become a doormat.

We do this to ourselves and many don't see the deeper cause of failure, assuming it's something shallow like "it's because I reached out first".
 

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I've seen dating coaches advocate never being the first to initiate contact after sex. The reasoning being the first person to contact cedes control. If the girl never contacts you after you simply never speak to her again.

Any opinion on this strategy?
Honestly, I think this is BS. Many women are insecure and might think that you not reaching out first is a sign that the sex was bad. And let's face, most of us guys have done that - going NC after sex because something turned us off.

At the end of the day, if she's into you, you will not "cede control" unless you do something stupid, like acting needy or insecure.
 

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In my experience, the first time I've slept with a girl, they've ALWAYS messaged me the next day.

It's only when sex is a consistent thing that they stop messaging me the next day.
 
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