"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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phil2015

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Hi chaps

Recently met a woman through online dating, who is possibly the hottest woman I've had interested in me in a long while. She's easily an 8 or 9, is a part time model, poses for life drawing classes and is a beauty therapist.

I went on a first date with her on Monday and ended up F-ing her at a hotel.

I found out as well she has 4 children, with 4 different men.

My purpose for this message is that I am looking for advice from an outside perspective as I feel myself getting blinded by her attractiveness.

I am wondering what is the best mindset to approach her with??

Ps - I have a date set with her tomorrow night at my place......
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Use a condom. Do not become emotionally involved with her. 4 children? Don't make a fifth.
 

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Hi chaps

Recently met a woman through online dating, who is possibly the hottest woman I've had interested in me in a long while. She's easily an 8 or 9, is a part time model, poses for life drawing classes and is a beauty therapist.

I went on a first date with her on Monday and ended up F-ing her at a hotel.

I found out as well she has 4 children, with 4 different men.

My purpose for this message is that I am looking for advice from an outside perspective as I feel myself getting blinded by her attractiveness.

I am wondering what is the best mindset to approach her with??

Ps - I have a date set with her tomorrow night at my place......
wrap 12 condoms around your **** and then drive to the next state over to blow your load so it isn't near her.
 

Billtx49

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There are many types of hoes you may come across in life. Child support, poor personal choices, any other type. The question as always, is do you want to be involved with her or see a future with this woman ?
Make no mistake though, that many kids by that many fathers, she probably is some type of hoe or have some type of physiological issue.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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El Payaso

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Four kids with four different men and she banged you on the first date. She's obviously shooting for five. It won't be long before she has you wrapped around her finger like a stupid little dog.
 

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wrap 12 condoms around your **** and then drive to the next state over to blow your load so it isn't near her.
Fvck that, make her swallow it and then rub your d!ck on any she doesn't get and then shove it back in her mouth...only way you'll guarantee she won't try and use it...chicks do crazy sh1t like try and get the cvm out of condoms etc and put it inside them...

my buddy had a chick that got him like that...the judge won't care...DNA test comes back positive, you are on the hook for 18 years
 

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Hi OP here,
Just an update for your own amusement

As I said in previous post I had invited her around for a meal tonight.

Result is she did a no-show and didn't even bigger to let me know she wasn't coming. I had cooked 2 best steaks which went in the bin, bought three bottles of wine and generally made the effort.

After ringing/texting her numerous times I finally got hold of her and she said she was having a childcare problem with one of her kids.

I checked her facebook (Im not her friemd) shortly after to find out 2 hours earlier she had posted she was out on a 'date night' with her daughter.

All that time/money/food wasted
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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marmel75

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Hi OP here,
Just an update for your own amusement

As I said in previous post I had invited her around for a meal tonight.

Result is she did a no-show and didn't even bigger to let me know she wasn't coming. I had cooked 2 best steaks which went in the bin, bought three bottles of wine and generally made the effort.

After ringing/texting her numerous times I finally got hold of her and she said she was having a childcare problem with one of her kids.

I checked her facebook (Im not her friemd) shortly after to find out 2 hours earlier she had posted she was out on a 'date night' with her daughter.

All that time/money/food wasted
So you threw the food out? WTF sense does that make? Why wouldn't you eat it yourself?

Way to show you are a desperate guy with no options by calling and texting her incessantly. Obviously she has little to no respect for you...delete her number and never contact her again.
 

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"Way to show you are a desperate guy with nooptions by calling and texting her incessantly"

I think by this point the rule book has gone out of the window and how I acted would not have made any difference
 

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Jesus Christ man, go to the phillipines.

I found out as well she has 4 children, with 4 different men.
You just dodged a silver bullet, if it was me, I'd be huffing into a paper bag.


CDL's and Thailand. Hammer down driver.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Should have sent me those steaks. Would have went to better use.

Why would you cook before she even got back to you
My whole point...that is just stupidity. Why would you throw out food you could have simply eaten yourself?
 

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Maybe he lost his appetite :D

Christ alive, four kids. Blergh.
 

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Sounds like you should have eaten one of the steaks and banged the other.
 

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She's super hot and on an online dating website. That combo right there should tell you something isn't right. Hot women don't go online until after they've poisoned the local well.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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