Ringleader41
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A lot of girls say this about me. Pretty much all of the girls in my area place black guys at the lowest tier. What do I do?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You're cute for a black guy
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Ringleader41
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I can't, I'm stuck here for four years unless I go to a ghetto college
You could probably get sex easily.... That's a compliment in sexual terms, but doesn't bode well if you're looking for a relationship. Kind of like saying, they're not that into you, but still find you attractive enough to ****.
I used to know girls that hated black people, but still said they would **** them if they were "hot". That seems to eliminate a lot of negative qualities and standards these days. Ha ha.
I used to know girls that hated black people, but still said they would **** them if they were "hot". That seems to eliminate a lot of negative qualities and standards these days. Ha ha.
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go elsewhere for ***** and/or dating. Do you live in a racist area? is it in the South or a general redneck area?
perhaps try internet dating, but seek out girls in a neighbouring state.
perhaps try internet dating, but seek out girls in a neighbouring state.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Take it as a compliment man. I get girls telling me that I am cute for an Asian guy all the time. Sometimes it pans out sometimes it doesn't but it sure as hell beats being ugly.
Ringleader41
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6ft and built.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I doubt that it was meant as an insult.MrI0wn said:
I've noticed different people define words differently. I used to date a girl who didn't like being called "cute", she thought it meant ugly, but somehow endearing, like a bulldog might be. Some girls think "attractive" is a word people use for girls who aren't pretty. Some think "pretty" means plain and not beautiful.
Similarly, some girls think "dating" is more serious than "seeing each other" and vice versa. "Going out with" could mean anything too.
"Cute guy" is generally a compliment, and I've definitely heard it directed toward huge muscled alpha types.
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I prefer to keep the stiff upper lip, I'd have said "Cheers" and walked away.
The best reaction to most given situations is simply not to react at all, or laugh it off.
I'm thick skinned and have a good sense of humour, when a girl says to me "Wow, you have small hands (I do, I have tiny hands), that must mean you have a small something downstairs", I laugh it off because that's my sense of humour and also because I know they'll more than likely never see what's in the pants department.
The best reaction to most given situations is simply not to react at all, or laugh it off.
I'm thick skinned and have a good sense of humour, when a girl says to me "Wow, you have small hands (I do, I have tiny hands), that must mean you have a small something downstairs", I laugh it off because that's my sense of humour and also because I know they'll more than likely never see what's in the pants department.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I can't say to a black girl: "you're cute for a black girl".
That's fvcking racist.
besides that they're trying to get you to qualify yourself.
I would straight out avoid these people. But I would switch it around first, like cola said: "and you're average for a white girl". The perfect comeback.
That's fvcking racist.
besides that they're trying to get you to qualify yourself.
I would straight out avoid these people. But I would switch it around first, like cola said: "and you're average for a white girl". The perfect comeback.
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