"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your max bench press.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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b4 i hurt my shoulder and can't bench anymore.
Maxtro
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I'm not going to say what else is wrong instead I think you should remake the poll using these options.0-49
50-99
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BTW I'm taking Stats now and I couldn't resist making the chart
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Stats sucks...good luck with that. I can throw up 250 and i weigh 190. I had hand surgery 7 months ago...one day my hand will probably snap.Maxtro said:Sorry bro but this is a bad poll. First of all you shouldn't make the names public. For the record I can't bench 450+ but I'm not going to seem like a wuss for picking anything lower
0-49
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100-149
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BTW I'm taking Stats now and I couldn't resist making the chart
Hockey Playa
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Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
And EFFORT, niceeeeee.
My best bench so far is a poultry 192.5lbs. Not tested in two months though so hopefully I'm over the 200 by now. Shall see in 4 weeks or so.
I'd like to see some video's people
Many are guilty of not using a full range of motion...I'd also much rather this was a deadlift poll
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Because I just started benching and I'm off the scaleQuagmire911 said:
Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
playa99 said:lol i dont i can only deadlift 150lbs 1RM lol but my bench 1RM is 205lbs and my squat 1RM is 264lbs,so yeah need to work on deadlift a lot
Let me guess, you used to do bench only and you squat to parallel?
Either that or your just proportioned that way. Btw if you squat to parallel, don't. Just incase you do...going all the way down is where it is at.
stoner1129
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JohnnyIrish
Master Don Juan
Hmm.. is squatting to parallel wrong? (so far I've been going to parallel or slightly below)
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
i can bench what 72kg? (at least i think the bar was 20kg - that's what someone told me) and 14-15 year olds are benching 160lb+ , damn i'm behind.
my squat and deadlifts are also appalling, lol no wonder my gains were small.
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
:crackup: really????.....now tell me something. Do you bring the bar to your chest and don't bounce the bar? Can you do it without a spotter upright rowing 50% of it?? How much do you weigh? how long have you trained? What do you eat? I BET your so full of crap. Stop posting, we don't need little kids around here with no knowledge dogging people who work hard. I hope your mom gives you a spanking. :box: :box: :box: :box:FiNs2BeCaUgHt said:
BTW I've always done incline. My max on that for 1 rep is about 200 lbs. I don't know what that translates into for regular bench but must be pretty good.
EFFORT........HOLY FREAKIN CRAP MAN. ughhhh haha
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
Also FiNs2BeCaUgHt: Idk where you got that 190+ stuff from. Theres a chart at my schools weight room. Its based on Light, Medium, and Heavy Weight people. That 190 pounds your talking about is for 230+ pound freshmen. People over 6'1 should reduce lift requirements by 25% I think, maybe less.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.