"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
"You look just like my old boyfriend!"
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If you look like someone they found attractive...right?
I was told this once and everything was going great until I went to fast and she lost interest thinking I only wanted her for one thing.
But what I can tell you with 100% certainty is she is still thinking about her exboyfriend and that's a flag.
marmel75
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It happened a lot...basically I would be introduced to a new girl and would be talking to her and they would say this out of the blue...
"You look a lot like my old boyfriend!" or "You remind me a lot of a guy I used to date..."
Usually had a smile on their face after saying it...it got to the point I heard that so many time I started saying "I must have a lot of twins running around out here" or something similar when they said it...probably happened at least 10 to 12 different times throughout the years and usually within the first 10 minutes of talking to the girl...
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Or it can mean absolutely nothing and she was just pointing it out.
If this is the case then I think maybe they mean by personality or character. Something they liked in their old boyfriend they saw in you as well. It might not be a physical resemblance but something about the type of person you are.marmel75 said:
There are other ways of giving "IOIs" than by mentioning an ex. She did it for a reason. You may see it differently but experience tells me it can definitely be a red flag. Not saying that the line alone means she's going to be a crazy cheater type, but I would watch for other flags.Social_Leper said:
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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One exception would be that she says "You remind me of my old boyfriend" with a big frown on her face, while reaching in her purse for a can of pepper spray. I would tell her "Nice to meet you" as I'm running for the nearest exit.
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Judge nismo orders you take it as a compliment and advance! AFAIC, ALL women have exes, and whether or not they're in the picture, make a move on her! Do you really have time to worry about how many men a woman has had or currently has? I hope not, cuz I sure the f**k don't. :box:
At the end of the day, she still has to choose you. IOI's don't mean sh*t. Compliments don't mean sh*t. Read the actions. A woman can tell you sweet things, give you her number, and never answer when you call.
Also, stamp out the discussions about her ex. Too many of them and your princess will be back at his castle. That's my verdict.
Case closed. Take control. :rockon:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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