"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"You have beautiful eyes", what to come back with?

lizardfloyd

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What should I say whenever a girl tells me that I have beautiful eyes? I've never been able to think of anything clever enough to come back with to a genuine compliment?

I've been told this a million times my whole life, but always go blank or say the cliche', "Thanks". I was at the grocery store a moment ago and got told the same thing from the checker at the counter. She said "they look like the ocean" or something to that degree. I wasn't really attracted to her so i just said "yeah, i know".
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Darth

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I had that question too awhile ago- I had been receiving that compliment a lot.

My standard response now is

"That's what my mom always told me." *grin*. "What's your name?"
 

romangod

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"You have beautiful eyes"



............... "and they're undressing you as we speak". ;)



Cheers!
 

chinwaggler

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if they are not an attention wh0re, and are giving a genuine compliment, just say thanks
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Aragon034

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"Yes, the window to my soul leads to a gentle pasture where sheep graze quietly next to a crystal clear waterfall, the kind of place you want to get lost in...(i'd go on for like 5 minutes)" (you've got to look off in the distance and get lost in the moment)

"Did you just come up with that?"

"No, but i'm tired of just saying 'thanks'. What'd you think?"

Continue conversation...
 

daygameguy

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"Thank you. Tell me more about me." :D
 

legolas

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Any comment about a physical feature is NOT a compliment. You had no choice in the matter, you were born with those eyes. The key is to NOT come up with a wise-ass answer because you don't want to slip into an approval seeking mindset, you need to move towards a chooser mindset. If you were to read into their comment, you'll find that what they're saying is that they find you attractive.

You could say "Oh I get that a lot" and follow up with "What's your name?" or even "Thanks...(pause)...what's your name?" and start a conversation.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Effington

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A smartass comment to a compliment sounds pretty arrogant to me. A simple thank you is always a good path to take.
 

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I disagree with a simple thank you. It won't keep the conversation going, you kill it with just a thank you. I'd respond "you're jealous"
 

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Whenever a woman tells me that I have beautiful eyes I just look her straight in the eyes, and smile.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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ready123

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Tenzen said:
I disagree with a simple thank you. It won't keep the conversation going, you kill it with just a thank you. I'd respond "you're jealous"
say thank you, then move the conversation forward on another thread, duh

and your response is trash. the girl gives you an IOI in the form of a genuine complement. you should be rewarding her to encourage her to keep the IOI's coming. a simple thank you does this. your wannabe c&f line doesn't
 

Tenzen

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not worth arguing, doesn't matter what u say back confidently.
 

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I don't get compliments on my eyes, I get them on my eyelashes. I still haven't come up with a witty comeback for that one.
 

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Hot Chica: You have really pretty eyes!

You: They're not real...

HC: What?

You: What do you look like? (Stare off into distance)

HC: Shut up!

You: You have a pretty voice. Oh well...

P.S. This is just a joke. All noobs reading this, don't listen to me. As many have said before, a simple "thank you" is enough. DJing doesn't revolve around pickup lines or canned phrases. It revolves around become a better person, and truly knowing that you're the best.
 

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I have't read all of the replies but

GUY YOU DON'T NEED 'COMEBACKS'

Just be honest a genuine. A sincere thank you is probably the best reply.

IF YOU TRY TO BE ****Y AND FUNNY WHEN SHE IS BEING SINCERE IT WILL SCREW IT UP!

I've done that way to many times back when I massively overrated ****yfunny and thought it was the answer to everything.

Say what you are thinking at the time.

"Wow... thank you, I don't know what to say"

BEING HONEST AND SPONTANEOUS THE BEST ANSWER

Although if she is in a playful mood or is saying it as a joke ****y/funny is GREAT!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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