wow do i feel bad or what. The girl that i really really want to take to the prom just got asked by someone else [i think]. this jsut totally killed my day, i fele like an AFC once again...I'm depressed..knowing that i had a chance but i let it slip away. I feel so down right now...
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yep..I'm pretty depressed
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
LongDrinkofWater
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Then go find someone else to ask. Don't beat yourself up over it. You needed to grab your balls and strike when the getting was good. Maybe there is more to your situation, I don't know.
However, you could try saying to her in a joking way that you were going to ask her, then see how she responds. Never know, a seed planted.........
However, you could try saying to her in a joking way that you were going to ask her, then see how she responds. Never know, a seed planted.........
I know, i can always find someone else. But this girl..i really wanted to bring her. I dont know if she really has a date yet, it's rather complicated but from the way it looks she MIGHT. I need some way to ask her in a convo...sigh..im going to bed.
it's rather a big deal for me cuz most of my friends know im gonna ask her and look at the situation now...sigh
it's rather a big deal for me cuz most of my friends know im gonna ask her and look at the situation now...sigh
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Why don't you just ask this girl? The first time I asked out my girlfriend I thought she had a date, but turns out when I asked her she took me over him. She didn't like the other guy and I made her feel comfortable and laugh. Don't lose hope man!
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way to copy my thread's name, *******. 
well i didnt exactly get rejected...instead i just passed up a good chance. man know what u mean man...i cant waitl till college so i can end this ****. but for now...i have 2 months of pain and suffering left...TOMORROW i need to get things straighten out with her. A lil encouragement or advice would be nice..Potbelly said:
hey i didnt mean to steal ur title, in fact, i didnt even know about your thread till you posted here about it.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.