wow do i feel bad or what. The girl that i really really want to take to the prom just got asked by someone else [i think]. this jsut totally killed my day, i fele like an AFC once again...I'm depressed..knowing that i had a chance but i let it slip away. I feel so down right now...
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yep..I'm pretty depressed
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
LongDrinkofWater
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Then go find someone else to ask. Don't beat yourself up over it. You needed to grab your balls and strike when the getting was good. Maybe there is more to your situation, I don't know.
However, you could try saying to her in a joking way that you were going to ask her, then see how she responds. Never know, a seed planted.........
However, you could try saying to her in a joking way that you were going to ask her, then see how she responds. Never know, a seed planted.........
I know, i can always find someone else. But this girl..i really wanted to bring her. I dont know if she really has a date yet, it's rather complicated but from the way it looks she MIGHT. I need some way to ask her in a convo...sigh..im going to bed.
it's rather a big deal for me cuz most of my friends know im gonna ask her and look at the situation now...sigh
it's rather a big deal for me cuz most of my friends know im gonna ask her and look at the situation now...sigh
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Why don't you just ask this girl? The first time I asked out my girlfriend I thought she had a date, but turns out when I asked her she took me over him. She didn't like the other guy and I made her feel comfortable and laugh. Don't lose hope man!
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way to copy my thread's name, *******. 
well i didnt exactly get rejected...instead i just passed up a good chance. man know what u mean man...i cant waitl till college so i can end this ****. but for now...i have 2 months of pain and suffering left...TOMORROW i need to get things straighten out with her. A lil encouragement or advice would be nice..Potbelly said:
hey i didnt mean to steal ur title, in fact, i didnt even know about your thread till you posted here about it.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.