wow do i feel bad or what. The girl that i really really want to take to the prom just got asked by someone else [i think]. this jsut totally killed my day, i fele like an AFC once again...I'm depressed..knowing that i had a chance but i let it slip away. I feel so down right now...
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Yep..I'm pretty depressed
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LongDrinkofWater
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Then go find someone else to ask. Don't beat yourself up over it. You needed to grab your balls and strike when the getting was good. Maybe there is more to your situation, I don't know.
However, you could try saying to her in a joking way that you were going to ask her, then see how she responds. Never know, a seed planted.........
However, you could try saying to her in a joking way that you were going to ask her, then see how she responds. Never know, a seed planted.........
I know, i can always find someone else. But this girl..i really wanted to bring her. I dont know if she really has a date yet, it's rather complicated but from the way it looks she MIGHT. I need some way to ask her in a convo...sigh..im going to bed.
it's rather a big deal for me cuz most of my friends know im gonna ask her and look at the situation now...sigh
it's rather a big deal for me cuz most of my friends know im gonna ask her and look at the situation now...sigh
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Why don't you just ask this girl? The first time I asked out my girlfriend I thought she had a date, but turns out when I asked her she took me over him. She didn't like the other guy and I made her feel comfortable and laugh. Don't lose hope man!
DogFashionDisco
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way to copy my thread's name, *******. 
well i didnt exactly get rejected...instead i just passed up a good chance. man know what u mean man...i cant waitl till college so i can end this ****. but for now...i have 2 months of pain and suffering left...TOMORROW i need to get things straighten out with her. A lil encouragement or advice would be nice..Potbelly said:
hey i didnt mean to steal ur title, in fact, i didnt even know about your thread till you posted here about it.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.