wow do i feel bad or what. The girl that i really really want to take to the prom just got asked by someone else [i think]. this jsut totally killed my day, i fele like an AFC once again...I'm depressed..knowing that i had a chance but i let it slip away. I feel so down right now...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yep..I'm pretty depressed
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
LongDrinkofWater
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Then go find someone else to ask. Don't beat yourself up over it. You needed to grab your balls and strike when the getting was good. Maybe there is more to your situation, I don't know.
However, you could try saying to her in a joking way that you were going to ask her, then see how she responds. Never know, a seed planted.........
However, you could try saying to her in a joking way that you were going to ask her, then see how she responds. Never know, a seed planted.........
I know, i can always find someone else. But this girl..i really wanted to bring her. I dont know if she really has a date yet, it's rather complicated but from the way it looks she MIGHT. I need some way to ask her in a convo...sigh..im going to bed.
it's rather a big deal for me cuz most of my friends know im gonna ask her and look at the situation now...sigh
it's rather a big deal for me cuz most of my friends know im gonna ask her and look at the situation now...sigh
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why don't you just ask this girl? The first time I asked out my girlfriend I thought she had a date, but turns out when I asked her she took me over him. She didn't like the other guy and I made her feel comfortable and laugh. Don't lose hope man!
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way to copy my thread's name, *******. 
well i didnt exactly get rejected...instead i just passed up a good chance. man know what u mean man...i cant waitl till college so i can end this ****. but for now...i have 2 months of pain and suffering left...TOMORROW i need to get things straighten out with her. A lil encouragement or advice would be nice..Potbelly said:
hey i didnt mean to steal ur title, in fact, i didnt even know about your thread till you posted here about it.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.