wow do i feel bad or what. The girl that i really really want to take to the prom just got asked by someone else [i think]. this jsut totally killed my day, i fele like an AFC once again...I'm depressed..knowing that i had a chance but i let it slip away. I feel so down right now...
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Yep..I'm pretty depressed
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
LongDrinkofWater
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Then go find someone else to ask. Don't beat yourself up over it. You needed to grab your balls and strike when the getting was good. Maybe there is more to your situation, I don't know.
However, you could try saying to her in a joking way that you were going to ask her, then see how she responds. Never know, a seed planted.........
However, you could try saying to her in a joking way that you were going to ask her, then see how she responds. Never know, a seed planted.........
I know, i can always find someone else. But this girl..i really wanted to bring her. I dont know if she really has a date yet, it's rather complicated but from the way it looks she MIGHT. I need some way to ask her in a convo...sigh..im going to bed.
it's rather a big deal for me cuz most of my friends know im gonna ask her and look at the situation now...sigh
it's rather a big deal for me cuz most of my friends know im gonna ask her and look at the situation now...sigh
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Why don't you just ask this girl? The first time I asked out my girlfriend I thought she had a date, but turns out when I asked her she took me over him. She didn't like the other guy and I made her feel comfortable and laugh. Don't lose hope man!
DogFashionDisco
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way to copy my thread's name, *******. 
well i didnt exactly get rejected...instead i just passed up a good chance. man know what u mean man...i cant waitl till college so i can end this ****. but for now...i have 2 months of pain and suffering left...TOMORROW i need to get things straighten out with her. A lil encouragement or advice would be nice..Potbelly said:
hey i didnt mean to steal ur title, in fact, i didnt even know about your thread till you posted here about it.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.