Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You're welcome. Next time though think out your thread instead of asking people to make duplicates... it keeps the forum less cluttered.Originally posted by SheDevil
I wish I could do a 'poll' with this question, but I am just not that computer savvy. I feel I would get more reponses and keep the thread very short. Yes, that was a hint.
Originally posted by diablo
You're welcome. Next time though think out your thread instead of asking people to make duplicates... it keeps the forum less cluttered.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Not if YOU are the one that has it in YOUR possesion at all times... Just be sure that u have one of those state of the arts safes in handyOriginally posted by MegaPlaya
It would seem like a good idea at the time.. It's something that could be used against you though..
yay... Don Juan p0rn :crackup: hmmm.... Wyldfire.... I'm still waiting for the "movie" you promised meOriginally posted by SuperGigaloDJ
My girlfriend and I are going to make one soon. She brings it up a lot.![]()
Maybe I'll put it up on the internet for you guys.
....Especially you Wyldfire. :yes:
Let's see, what was going thru my head when I polled the question: "If you could watch a video of yourself making love, would you?"Originally posted by Brother_Rapp
I wonder what was going on inside the head of this personwhen she started this thread? Nobody thought this demented thread wasn't worth discussing?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.