mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Well take them. Some of your turnoffs are REDICULOUS.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Would you guys recommend using pictures of you with your sister on dating sites?
- Thread starter bigdave17
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Murk
Master Don Juan
Ok man like Prakash, I see you.
because I can date a 34 year old when I'm 40. Attractive and classy 34 year olds approach me all the time now.
Entitlement issue because they're doing well in their career? What does that matter to me? I make nearly 200K and will be a millionaire by the time I'm 40. It's not like I will be any less good looking at 40 than now either. I'm a very high testosterone dark skinned male. I'll age about 3 years appearance wise in the next 25. My 55 year old uncle could pass for 35-38. We Armenians are right there with the blacks when it comes to crazy aging genetics.
Women finally start to have normal standards at 33-37. They're crazy picky at 23-28 unfortunately. They want a perfect guy
women age horrendously compared to men. I'm not dating anybody older than me
Other aspect is (probably bigger aspect), I want kids but not for like 9 years. Any 34 year old woman is looking to have kids within a couple years
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
You said yourself you met an incredibly fit 35-36 years old last you thought she was 25. You got turned off when she mentioned her age.
If a woman takes care of her nutrition and fitness she can age incredibly. Some look better put together at 35 than a young buck 25. Of course it's not the majority but they are there.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Women fall off hard and fast starting around 40-50. White women especially fall of the face of the earth. I've seen white women go from a 8/10 at 40 to a 4/10 at 50. Jennifer Aniston is irrelevant - she spends 100K a year on surgery/treatments that no normal woman can afford.
I need somebody ethnic (Spanish/Arab/Mediterranean) and younger than me or roughly my age
But again, the bigger concern is kids, every 35 year old woman I know without kids wants to have them ASAP. I'm not ready for kids, I want them by time I'm around 40
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Get a Brazilian. They have alot of pride in treating their men well. I have a story of a man who went from a Alpha female Jennifer Aniston type who cucked him and he got rid of her and got a beautiful loving Brazilian.
I love all Spanish women (Mexican, Brazilian, Puerto Rican). I've met a few I liked but so many of them have kids at a young age. I don't want to date a single mom. I'm not ready for kids to be involved in my life in any way for about 8-10 years
IKO69
Master Don Juan
I don't use online dating so I am really not the person to ask but I would be against using a pic with your sister or any woman on the grounds of:
1) It looks like you are trying too hard. It's like people who purposely flaunt - people have no respect for them and try to use them
2) Women know you'd be using it to make yourself appear "better"
3) There's no way you can tell whether the woman in the photo is someone you are ****ing or not, thus displaying "value"
Pics by yourself, and doing something "cool" would be better in my opinion
1) It looks like you are trying too hard. It's like people who purposely flaunt - people have no respect for them and try to use them
2) Women know you'd be using it to make yourself appear "better"
3) There's no way you can tell whether the woman in the photo is someone you are ****ing or not, thus displaying "value"
Pics by yourself, and doing something "cool" would be better in my opinion
you can put a note/caption on any pic that it's your sister
it wouldn't be my main pic, I'm gonna get a professional pic as my main pic
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
IKO69
Master Don Juan
Ok, but why would ever put a pic on a dating site that specifically points out the woman in the picture is your sister? Save that for facebook or instagram bro
because I look good in the pic and it's a cool background with me dressed very sharp in a nice Chicago lounge
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Hey man. Get your Vette keep taking care of business have fun and get off of here. You got enough information to achieve your objectives.
I took today off work
I'm going to Chicago for a cubs game for my best friend's 30th birthday party with 8 of my friends. This dating stuff is just very frustrating man. I feel like I have everything any man could need to be very successful in dating
- I'm genuinely a very good person. I'm very loyal and honest and loving while being completely independent (i'm not needy or clingy at all). Everybody says I'm a great person
- Between income level and understanding of finances when adjusted for cost of living location, I'm top 0.01% of men in the US under 40
- Between face/physique/fashion sense, I've gotta be top what? 10 or 15% right? I go outside and most guys look horrible. I see very very very few men who are decent looking, in shape, take care of themselves, etc...
But I'm not getting the results I should be getting because I'm scared to put myself out there
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Since your off do your Vette test drive
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm not gonna test drive it, I know I'll absolutely love it. No point
corrector
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 12, 2009
- Messages
- 10,392
- Reaction score
- 4,059
But you are not white. You have a racial insecurity and in the back of your mind you think you are not good enough despite what you are making yourself to be on here. You mentioned this before in your posts. If your racial insecurity is bothering you that much, then get blue eyed contact lenses and die your hair blonde or something.
correct...but I want women who are of my ethnicity (or very similar ethnicity) so that's no negative. Spanish/Arab women love men with my facial features type
plenty of white people say I'm very handsome just FYI
corrector
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 12, 2009
- Messages
- 10,392
- Reaction score
- 4,059
It doesn't matter if other white people/women say you are handsome. It's the ethnics you want and they usually like white guys. Ethnics have more issues in wanting to get with a white man than white women do. They like men with your facial feature types if they are white though.
What is this based on? The vast majority of hot spanish and arab women are with Spanish and Arab men
You guys need to stop with your white people worshiping nonsense
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.