The_Reaper
Senior Don Juan
Yeah, no? And why?
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
More of a challenge? I think you are the first person to ever say that.NFC said:Older woman rock.. they're more of a challenge, I think.
Hahaha good onesparky0000 said:Am I the only one to notice these things? Nope. One reason why the runways in NY had more Estonian girls (a population of barely over 1 million) than American girls this fashion season. Sad. There was a time when you could find some pretty American girls.
Depends on the woman more than the age. So... maybe. I could see it happen, depending on the woman, unless she was a skank.The_Reaper said:Yeah, no? And why?
And that's evolution for you.sparky0000 said:They don't even have the same genetic features that the modern day American girl has.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Hey, I know of a guy who has celebrated his 30th birthday for the past 17 years. I kid you not. He has the cake with the number 30 etched into it. People give toasts and talk about his first 30 years of life. He even has a video tribute to himself where the number 30 flashes in between the videos. I guess if it works for ya. From the pictures I have seen, the girls in attendance get younger every 30th birthday party he has.mrRuckus said:She used to be 3 years older than you? How is that possible? Did one of you at some point approach light speed?
Sparky, you are in sync with the rhythmn of truth!!!sparky0000 said:More of a challenge? I think you are the first person to ever say that.
It is a very chic thing in America to go out with older broads. It starts with the gay...er...straight celebrities who get older broads. All of a sudden every Chandler and Tyson wants one. Kinda like how American dudes seem to really be into chunky females. I DO NOT mean ALL MEN, but there is a definite trend. It might also stem from the fact that the caliber of girl in America has dropped so much in the last 20 years. Take a look at pictures of American girls back in the early 80's. They don't even have the same genetic features that the modern day American girl has.
Am I the only one to notice these things? Nope. One reason why the runways in NY had more Estonian girls (a population of barely over 1 million) than American girls this fashion season. Sad. There was a time when you could find some pretty American girls.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
No. I'm old. lol.The_Reaper said:Yeah, no? And why?
lol... damn, I feel nerdy for understanding the light speed pun...mrRuckus said:She used to be 3 years older than you? How is that possible? Did one of you at some point approach light speed?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.