You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Vulpine said:It's not JUST PC muscles to work on. There is a second part of ejaculation control that must be worked on, but is generally neglected/ignored.
See, most guys do kegals fine, but they do them in a manner that elevates the testicles.
:nono:
That's "bad form". Like any exercise, form matters. The proper kegal form is to contract the muscle that cuts off urine flow WITHOUT clenching the muscles that elevate the testicles. You'll need to watch what's going on down there to get a feeling of which muscles are doing what. Once you've isolated only the muscle that cuts off urine flow and get a feel for maintaining testicle position while clencing, then you can rock out as many kegal reps as you want.
In the meantime, to delay ejaculation, clench it off as you would normally... but since your testicles are drawing up also, reach down and pull them away from your body (or have her do it). The testicles need to be drawn up close to the body in order to ejaculate, so pulling them away and clenching works great to stop ejaculation.
Once you've isolated the muscles that elevate the testicles, and learn to keep them relaxed, you'll be amazed at how long your orgasms last. I've had some long, long, orgasms without "ejaculation" climax: 10-15 minutes easy... believe me - I've actually hyper-ventillated a couple times.
Keeping those muscles relaxed is much easier when you are on your back. That way, you have gravity to help keep the testicles pulled away from the body. I find that when I'm on top and moving, I tend to "mess up" and lose track of their position with all the swinging around going on, plus it's crazy stimulating to have them smacking against her... *SPLAT*
Indeed, bad form Kegals have a negative effect because they draw up the testicles TIGHTER to the body, thus making you ejaculate FASTER! If I am taking too long, I draw them up closer and thus speed things along.
Orgasm is seperate from ejaculationNFC said:I was under the assumption that "multiple orgasm" meant you could still stimulate yourself (thrusting in and out) and still not ejaculate while orgasming.. apparently that's not the case.. according to this article I've been a "multiple orgasm"er for awhile heh.. I don't see a point if you have to stop. That's no matter then stopping, waiting for your penis to get soft and lose a little wood then starting again. Or am I completely wrong here?
I've always been able to orgasm and ejaculate, keep my wood and orgasm and ejaculate again.. I've also been able to ejaculate, but have no orgasm... am I doing it right?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.