When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Vulpine said:It's not JUST PC muscles to work on. There is a second part of ejaculation control that must be worked on, but is generally neglected/ignored.
See, most guys do kegals fine, but they do them in a manner that elevates the testicles.
:nono:
That's "bad form". Like any exercise, form matters. The proper kegal form is to contract the muscle that cuts off urine flow WITHOUT clenching the muscles that elevate the testicles. You'll need to watch what's going on down there to get a feeling of which muscles are doing what. Once you've isolated only the muscle that cuts off urine flow and get a feel for maintaining testicle position while clencing, then you can rock out as many kegal reps as you want.
In the meantime, to delay ejaculation, clench it off as you would normally... but since your testicles are drawing up also, reach down and pull them away from your body (or have her do it). The testicles need to be drawn up close to the body in order to ejaculate, so pulling them away and clenching works great to stop ejaculation.
Once you've isolated the muscles that elevate the testicles, and learn to keep them relaxed, you'll be amazed at how long your orgasms last. I've had some long, long, orgasms without "ejaculation" climax: 10-15 minutes easy... believe me - I've actually hyper-ventillated a couple times.
Keeping those muscles relaxed is much easier when you are on your back. That way, you have gravity to help keep the testicles pulled away from the body. I find that when I'm on top and moving, I tend to "mess up" and lose track of their position with all the swinging around going on, plus it's crazy stimulating to have them smacking against her... *SPLAT*
Indeed, bad form Kegals have a negative effect because they draw up the testicles TIGHTER to the body, thus making you ejaculate FASTER! If I am taking too long, I draw them up closer and thus speed things along.
Orgasm is seperate from ejaculationNFC said:I was under the assumption that "multiple orgasm" meant you could still stimulate yourself (thrusting in and out) and still not ejaculate while orgasming.. apparently that's not the case.. according to this article I've been a "multiple orgasm"er for awhile heh.. I don't see a point if you have to stop. That's no matter then stopping, waiting for your penis to get soft and lose a little wood then starting again. Or am I completely wrong here?
I've always been able to orgasm and ejaculate, keep my wood and orgasm and ejaculate again.. I've also been able to ejaculate, but have no orgasm... am I doing it right?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.