She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Vulpine said:It's not JUST PC muscles to work on. There is a second part of ejaculation control that must be worked on, but is generally neglected/ignored.
See, most guys do kegals fine, but they do them in a manner that elevates the testicles.
:nono:
That's "bad form". Like any exercise, form matters. The proper kegal form is to contract the muscle that cuts off urine flow WITHOUT clenching the muscles that elevate the testicles. You'll need to watch what's going on down there to get a feeling of which muscles are doing what. Once you've isolated only the muscle that cuts off urine flow and get a feel for maintaining testicle position while clencing, then you can rock out as many kegal reps as you want.
In the meantime, to delay ejaculation, clench it off as you would normally... but since your testicles are drawing up also, reach down and pull them away from your body (or have her do it). The testicles need to be drawn up close to the body in order to ejaculate, so pulling them away and clenching works great to stop ejaculation.
Once you've isolated the muscles that elevate the testicles, and learn to keep them relaxed, you'll be amazed at how long your orgasms last. I've had some long, long, orgasms without "ejaculation" climax: 10-15 minutes easy... believe me - I've actually hyper-ventillated a couple times.
Keeping those muscles relaxed is much easier when you are on your back. That way, you have gravity to help keep the testicles pulled away from the body. I find that when I'm on top and moving, I tend to "mess up" and lose track of their position with all the swinging around going on, plus it's crazy stimulating to have them smacking against her... *SPLAT*
Indeed, bad form Kegals have a negative effect because they draw up the testicles TIGHTER to the body, thus making you ejaculate FASTER! If I am taking too long, I draw them up closer and thus speed things along.
Orgasm is seperate from ejaculationNFC said:I was under the assumption that "multiple orgasm" meant you could still stimulate yourself (thrusting in and out) and still not ejaculate while orgasming.. apparently that's not the case.. according to this article I've been a "multiple orgasm"er for awhile heh.. I don't see a point if you have to stop. That's no matter then stopping, waiting for your penis to get soft and lose a little wood then starting again. Or am I completely wrong here?
I've always been able to orgasm and ejaculate, keep my wood and orgasm and ejaculate again.. I've also been able to ejaculate, but have no orgasm... am I doing it right?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.