I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Vulpine said:It's not JUST PC muscles to work on. There is a second part of ejaculation control that must be worked on, but is generally neglected/ignored.
See, most guys do kegals fine, but they do them in a manner that elevates the testicles.
:nono:
That's "bad form". Like any exercise, form matters. The proper kegal form is to contract the muscle that cuts off urine flow WITHOUT clenching the muscles that elevate the testicles. You'll need to watch what's going on down there to get a feeling of which muscles are doing what. Once you've isolated only the muscle that cuts off urine flow and get a feel for maintaining testicle position while clencing, then you can rock out as many kegal reps as you want.
In the meantime, to delay ejaculation, clench it off as you would normally... but since your testicles are drawing up also, reach down and pull them away from your body (or have her do it). The testicles need to be drawn up close to the body in order to ejaculate, so pulling them away and clenching works great to stop ejaculation.
Once you've isolated the muscles that elevate the testicles, and learn to keep them relaxed, you'll be amazed at how long your orgasms last. I've had some long, long, orgasms without "ejaculation" climax: 10-15 minutes easy... believe me - I've actually hyper-ventillated a couple times.
Keeping those muscles relaxed is much easier when you are on your back. That way, you have gravity to help keep the testicles pulled away from the body. I find that when I'm on top and moving, I tend to "mess up" and lose track of their position with all the swinging around going on, plus it's crazy stimulating to have them smacking against her... *SPLAT*
Indeed, bad form Kegals have a negative effect because they draw up the testicles TIGHTER to the body, thus making you ejaculate FASTER! If I am taking too long, I draw them up closer and thus speed things along.
Orgasm is seperate from ejaculationNFC said:I was under the assumption that "multiple orgasm" meant you could still stimulate yourself (thrusting in and out) and still not ejaculate while orgasming.. apparently that's not the case.. according to this article I've been a "multiple orgasm"er for awhile heh.. I don't see a point if you have to stop. That's no matter then stopping, waiting for your penis to get soft and lose a little wood then starting again. Or am I completely wrong here?
I've always been able to orgasm and ejaculate, keep my wood and orgasm and ejaculate again.. I've also been able to ejaculate, but have no orgasm... am I doing it right?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.