"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Women w/o a "type" will date average Joes

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Whenever I had actually garnered dates with women, when asked what do they look for in a man, they say they don't have a type...to me, that's a plus because it means they aren't picky and are rather diverse when they do go out with someone.

Even hot ladies can be this way because I recall a rather attractive women admitting to have dated almost all types physically, be it chubby, stalky, bald, short, tall, even muscular/athletic. As long as they were nice guys, that's all that mattered.

Usually their list of attributes that they seek in a man are pretty basic. They'll usually mention 3 or 4 descriptors like "He's nice, funny, respectful, and kind." Something like that. VERY basic. They aren't picky and pretty much willing to give almost any guy, short of farting and burping outloud, a date.

These are the kind of women that even average joes have a shot at. Ever come across women like this? They are kind of unicorns.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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an intelligent person doesn't have a hard type that they stick to
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Nice funny and kind. Oh yeah that's really going to give them tingles. I must have missed that chapter in the DJ Bible.
Actually sprinkle a tad bit of indifference and that's pretty much the correct formula
 

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Nice funny and kind. Oh yeah that's really going to give them tingles. I must have missed that chapter in the DJ Bible.
Because it's in a book called 101 ways to enter the friendzone. This is point #4.
 

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Cola that's too simplified. What I absolutely would agree with is you have to build comfort with a woman first. If you look at woman that's how they approach each other. But then you have to do your DJ work teasing aloofness kino leading.
 

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I think we all have types. I definitely do. But I think we've all ventured out of those types and been pleased with what we've found. I know I have.

Find your niche but explore other avenues sometimes.
 

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Cola that's too simplified. What I absolutely would agree with is you have to build comfort with a woman first. If you look at woman that's how they approach each other. But then you have to do your DJ work teasing aloofness kino leading.
Yea of course some playful teasing.. Aloofness & indifference are kind of synonymous at least in this context
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think when a woman says that she wants a nice guy, it's like a guy saying he likes redheads. her not having red hair isn't so important that it's a deal breaker if she's a blonde instead, it's just a little cherry on top of the sundae, but a sundae with no cherry is almost equally good
 
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