"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Women w/o a "type" will date average Joes

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Whenever I had actually garnered dates with women, when asked what do they look for in a man, they say they don't have a type...to me, that's a plus because it means they aren't picky and are rather diverse when they do go out with someone.

Even hot ladies can be this way because I recall a rather attractive women admitting to have dated almost all types physically, be it chubby, stalky, bald, short, tall, even muscular/athletic. As long as they were nice guys, that's all that mattered.

Usually their list of attributes that they seek in a man are pretty basic. They'll usually mention 3 or 4 descriptors like "He's nice, funny, respectful, and kind." Something like that. VERY basic. They aren't picky and pretty much willing to give almost any guy, short of farting and burping outloud, a date.

These are the kind of women that even average joes have a shot at. Ever come across women like this? They are kind of unicorns.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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an intelligent person doesn't have a hard type that they stick to
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Nice funny and kind. Oh yeah that's really going to give them tingles. I must have missed that chapter in the DJ Bible.
Actually sprinkle a tad bit of indifference and that's pretty much the correct formula
 

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Nice funny and kind. Oh yeah that's really going to give them tingles. I must have missed that chapter in the DJ Bible.
Because it's in a book called 101 ways to enter the friendzone. This is point #4.
 

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Cola that's too simplified. What I absolutely would agree with is you have to build comfort with a woman first. If you look at woman that's how they approach each other. But then you have to do your DJ work teasing aloofness kino leading.
 

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I think we all have types. I definitely do. But I think we've all ventured out of those types and been pleased with what we've found. I know I have.

Find your niche but explore other avenues sometimes.
 

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Cola that's too simplified. What I absolutely would agree with is you have to build comfort with a woman first. If you look at woman that's how they approach each other. But then you have to do your DJ work teasing aloofness kino leading.
Yea of course some playful teasing.. Aloofness & indifference are kind of synonymous at least in this context
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think when a woman says that she wants a nice guy, it's like a guy saying he likes redheads. her not having red hair isn't so important that it's a deal breaker if she's a blonde instead, it's just a little cherry on top of the sundae, but a sundae with no cherry is almost equally good
 
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