DharmaBear
Don Juan
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How would one define a "quality" woman?
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
But...women adapt to their environment..therefore, they change.blueguy said:Here's the thing guys:
Women haven't changed. Their environments have.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Right, but basically the problem here is that humans are going to do whatever they can get away with. I know we're talking women here, but it's really the same thing. Let's make some cases:Mr.Positive said:But...women adapt to their environment..therefore, they change.
Absolutely. I always say good manners fade away the moment sword duels were banned. Who would risk insulting you, if he could be bollocks minus that same evening?squirrels said:People in general are of lower quality today.
Why? Because they can get away with it. Life is too easy.
you know what, squirrels replied to this thread first and said all people in general were lower quality also.jophil28 said:However I still have this sneaking suspicion that you will want to have the last word .
Maybe he likes you Pen...penkitten said:you know what, squirrels replied to this thread first and said all people in general were lower quality also.
why are you not trying to argue with him?
why are you only trying to argue with me?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Wrong. I will have the last word:However I still have this sneaking suspicion that you will want to have the last word.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.