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Out of interest, who's driving this? Men have apparently been 'in charge' for centuries. Why is/was it in mens interest (people at the top) to allow this to happen? I understand feminism will be one of the reasons , but how would that and other factors be allowed to have such influence over men (at least in the western world).
I believe those at the top ( the gatekeepers ) didn't fully understand the ramifications of loosening the reins so to speak

Now Pandora's box is open it can't be closed , what started with female equality has now warped into total political correctness across every demographic
 

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I believe those at the top ( the gatekeepers ) didn't fully understand the ramifications of loosening the reins so to speak

Now Pandora's box is open it can't be closed , what started with female equality has now warped into total political correctness across every demographic
that makes sense and its difficult to go against the grain and risk being ostracized and condemned as misogynist.

in some ways strange given the amount of time we've been on this planet for and the wealth of experience/knowledge we have around human behaviors.
 

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Out of interest, who's driving this? Men have apparently been 'in charge' for centuries. Why is/was it in mens interest (people at the top) to allow this to happen? I understand feminism will be one of the reasons , but how would that and other factors be allowed to have such influence over men (at least in the western world).
The answer is simple: politics. One faction of men thought that they could use female voters to gain an upper hand over another faction. That may have worked the short run and politicians rarely consider long-term consequences. The same thing is happening right now with the migration crisis. One political party thinks that flooding the country with illegal immigrants will benefit them because the illegals will eventually become citizens and vote for that political party.
 

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Men with goals, drive, and ambition don't have to worry (or continually whine and post) about women "with too many options" because they don't give a f*uck. They stay focused on their life goals and plan and see women as a compliment and not the driving force in their life. Only weak insecure men worry about this s*hit.

If this hard truth p*isses you off because complaining and b*itching is so much easier, block me please. Poof! Problem solved.

Good day, gents.
 

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This is actually very frustrating to me. If they did in fact have infinite options I could deal with that, but thinking they have infinite options when they don't is so beyond retarded it's just sad.

Most of their real "options" are either high value males, who will just pump and dump as you said, or the orbiters that only serve to inflate their ego and give the illusion of more options.

So their actual selection pool is basically the same as always, but because their egos become so out of control, they think they have dozens of options, and only hold out for the top-tier guys, not realizing they'll probably never get them, let alone exclusively to themselves.
theres two girls working in my local costa coffee, about 18-20, Theyre so feminine friendly and giggly, its so arousing.

I dread the next 10 years, and what they will turn into if they let "likes"/validation corrupt them.
 

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Men with goals, drive, and ambition don't have to worry (or continually whine and post) about women "with too many options" because they don't give a f*uck. They stay focused on their life goals and plan and see women as a compliment and not the driving force in their life. Only weak insecure men worry about this s*hit.
were still allowed to discuss how it makes them behave insufferable lol.

A 5 telling me "she thought she would give me a chance" or "hes gotta work for this ass" :rofl:
 

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In any market where there is saturation there is always demand for innovation and originality

A lot of her "options" repulse her they are useless beta males

I see it all the time most guys just cannot stop themselves from doing the wrong things with women

One of my friends met a chick a month ago .....he has now virtually got her living with him , booking holidays with her and declaring his undying love to her

ONE MONTH

What's worse is he's been around the block with relationships constantly in and out of them I've tried coaching him he agrees with what I'm saying

Then a pretty face turns up and bam he's back to square one
you cant unplug them weve said it many times
 

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^^guy gets 100s of messages using a "female filter" smh
We have seen this before however the modern thirst in men is surreal
1 out of 3 men not having any sex(probably 2 out of 3) is getting worse
solution? level up! get in a high quality social circle, travel (outside of the country get a passport) etc

The state of modern dating is terrible
We definitely ain't in Kansas anymore. You have been here for a long time as have I and the changes that we've seen Are shocking
 

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Men with goals, drive, and ambition don't have to worry (or continually whine and post) about women "with too many options" because they don't give a f*uck. They stay focused on their life goals and plan and see women as a compliment and not the driving force in their life. Only weak insecure men worry about this s*hit.

If this hard truth p*isses you off because complaining and b*itching is so much easier, block me please. Poof! Problem solved.

Good day, gents.
Trust me man, I couldn't care less about women, I tend to ignore most of them for long stretches of time. But to just passively go on without criticizing them is foolish. Our culture is rotting from the inside and insisting on an individualistic/libertarian mindset is how civilizations collapse. We need to openly criticize women (and men) for their ****-brained ideas and behaviors.
 

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Men with goals, drive, and ambition don't have to worry (or continually whine and post) about women "with too many options" because they don't give a f*uck. They stay focused on their life goals and plan and see women as a compliment and not the driving force in their life. Only weak insecure men worry about this s*hit.

If this hard truth p*isses you off because complaining and b*itching is so much easier, block me please. Poof! Problem solved.

Good day, gents.
I think it says more about you than about us that you can't do both. Same as anyone who can't entertain unpopular opinions because they fear a label, even a self-label.
 
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Most of their real "options" are either high value males, who will just pump and dump as you said, or the orbiters that only serve to inflate their ego and give the illusion of more options.
It's a mistake to think that they're actually unhappy with this situation. They know it's not real but they like it and they know to try to get off the carousel at the last minute.
 

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In my opinion women do understand that they can get laid on the drop of a dime, but must drop their standards in some cases to do so. This doesn’t resolve their cognitive dissonance though. I will illustrate with an experience from my past:

A couple years ago I dated a women I traveled with twice a month to fun spots across the US and beyond, I’d describe her as a solid 8.5 age adjusted, in amazing shape, she definitely turned heads and did not lack for options.

I made the boob mistake of attempting to
“Red-pill” her. We were talking about options for men va options for women of the same SMV. She argued vociferously that I easily had as many options as a woman of equal SMV. I then asked her if she thought she and I were of equal attractiveness, she said yes.

I proposed a test: that she put up a tinder profile for me on her phone, she got to pick k the images and write the profile, i would do the same on Hera, we would then tally the results after 48 hours. She agreed. We put it in her phone and purchased a full access account so we could see right swipes without needing to swipe. In 48 hours I had 92 right swipes, we then proceeded to go through each profile, of 92 I saw 3 women I would even consider contacting based on what I saw. We talked about it, she then held steadfast and said “see you have plenty of options this proves you’re attractive!” I argued what good does it do me if I’d never touch 95% of them with a 10ft pole? Her reply: no this means you are attractive.

In her mind this meant the 386 rights her profile achieved in the same period of time all told her she was attractive, even if there were only 5 guys she’d consider attractive enough to contact.

This was easily the most self aware woman I’ve ever dated and quite smart. So there you have it, the way even an outlier thinks about it is that even though they wouldn’t consider the lion share of the interested men even remotely attractive it still meant to her that she was, definitely a prize.

As has been said repeatedly women simply are different in their mentation and can hold two completely divergent thoughts as truein their consciousness as truths.
Women idealize the men that they choose to sleep with.
 

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You are mistaken.
If he could see what i saw last summer, he would know. But because women dont show it to him and he doesnt encounter it, he doesnt know ......

I was on the balcony of "M" (who i actually dont even want to have sex with) after sex with her, and i see an attractive woman walking here from afar. As she walks closer, M's next gate neighbor "Celsius Guy" also appears out of his gate - the man ive seen once before who M said was "bringing a new girl home every day". I was also struck by the pointedly jaded tone M said that in. Then, i definitely see it's the same girl i saw with Celsius Guy the other day, so i tell M she said he brings home a new girl every day, yet now im seeing the same girl - and she says "sometimes he brings the same ones over". Again M said it in a pointedly jaded, languid tone (i dont know if she has history with Celsius or not). Celsius Guy meanwhile is swinging his keys in the most self-satisfied stroll ive ever seen, which made me smile, then they meet up and walk into his gate.

^ That experience struck me permanently in a way i doubt is being conveyed over text. I started walking around my room laughing, clapping my hands, smiling and talking to myself before resuming writing it. But unlike what it might be for an incel, for me it wasnt a bitter experience at all - it was astounding and inspiring, like watching an epic movie scene. I thought the contrast between how i could live my sex life, and the way women and Celsius Guy could live their sex lifes, was awe inspiring. Man, i wish i could go back and replay that moment...
 
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Women THINK they have endless options, but they do not. In reality they only have options that are within their SMV.

Women have been brain washed in thinking they have all of these relationship options when in reality they have a bunch of men wanting to pump and dump them. They should thank OLD and social media for the mirage and most women cannot identify the difference until it is too late.......and totally worthless to any high value male.
Being "Pumped and dumped" energetically wise is the same as a man getting used for his money, free labor or connections. It definately doesn't help you, and will lead you to losing some self worth and "swag". If that's your only means of interacting either being "pumped and dump" or "used for your money", your looks and confidence will start to deplete down to zero. Not a good look, not a good position.
 

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To make ANY relationship work these days you have to let her move in within a month or less. Or you move in with her. You have no idea how many women I’ve met in the past few years that told me how they lived with their ex after a few weeks to a month of dating. Women these days think if you don’t play house with them as soon as possible that you aren’t serious. I’m not willing to do that and I’m struggling with finding a relationship, coincidence? I don’t think so.
 

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If he could see what i saw last summer, he would know. But because women dont show it to him and he doesnt encounter it, he doesnt know ......

I was on the balcony of "M" (who i actually dont even want to have sex with) after sex with her, and i see an attractive woman walking here from afar. As she walks closer, M's next gate neighbor "Celsius Guy" also appears out of his gate - the man ive seen once before who M said was "bringing a new girl home every day". I was also struck by the pointedly jaded tone M said that in. Then, i definitely see it's the same girl i saw with Celsius Guy the other day, so i tell M she said he brings home a new girl every day, yet now im seeing the same girl - and she says "sometimes he brings the same ones over". Again M said it in a pointedly jaded, languid tone (i dont know if she has history with Celsius or not). Celsius Guy meanwhile is swinging his keys in the most self-satisfied stroll ive ever seen, which made me smile, then they meet up and walk into his gate.

^ That experience struck me permanently in a way i doubt is being conveyed over text. I started walking around my room laughing, clapping my hands, smiling and talking to myself before resuming writing it. But unlike what it might be for an incel, for me it wasnt a bitter experience at all - it was astounding and inspiring, like watching an epic movie scene. I thought the contrast between how i could live my sex life, and the way women and Celsius Guy could live their sex lifes, was awe inspiring. Man, i wish i could go back and replay that moment...
People here struggle with the type of empathy required to understand similarities between men and women. They are good and observing or theorizing differences though. To be fair, Bokanovsky is from Russia i think, so the women are probably a bit different.
 

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Being "Pumped and dumped" energetically wise is the same as a man getting used for his money, free labor or connections. It definately doesn't help you, and will lead you to losing some self worth and "swag". If that's your only means of interacting either being "pumped and dump" or "used for your money", your looks and confidence will start to deplete down to zero. Not a good look, not a good position.
Exactly. Imagine this being done to you 15 times a year lol. No wonder why the more promiscuous ones are so neurotic.
 

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People here struggle with the type of empathy required to understand similarities between men and women. They are good and observing or theorizing differences though. To be fair, Bokanovsky is from Russia i think, so the women are probably a bit different.
I am from Canada :D
 

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People here struggle with the type of empathy required to understand similarities between men and women. They are good and observing or theorizing differences though. To be fair, Bokanovsky is from Russia i think, so the women are probably a bit different.
I was actually going to quote your posts on that at first but decided to write that story instead, i think you said it's more realistic to think of women as being like men with abundance. I think another point is that women are not all the exact same, so what people here say can all be true but applies to different women, just like the men here are not all the exact same.

For example some women use OLD, but others dont. Some women drink/drugs/smoke, others dont. Some are on birth control with a shaved pvssy all the time, but others are not. Some go to clubs, others dont. Some use alcohol to hook up, others dont. Some enjoy rejecting men sadistically, others dont. Some are taking mental health medicine, or have a personality disorder diagnosis, or could make you think that should be the case - others dont. Some have a higher capacity for self reflection or accountability, others less. Some are perpetually single, others have a boyfriend since quite early, and some of those are unfaithful while others are not... and so on. I think this happens because of outgroup homogenity.
 
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