"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Women as they age?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
Egoist
Master Don Juan
Wyldfire said:
don't you always complain when people generalize?
( i sorta agree, but no extremism here..)
This isn't something that should EVER be done. If a person is 60 years old and having babies they're irresponsible. Who is going to change the diapers of the toddler if the parent develops alzheimer's and needs someone to change THEIR diapers?Egoist said:
The average life expectancy is from 67 to 72 years old...a little longer for women than men. Children should NOT be brought into the world by a parent who is either going to die or be physically or mentally unable to care for those children through 4 years of college. Men who put off having children (if they want kids) until around 50 or older are morons who are putting their offspring at a very high risk of ending up fatherless before they even finish highschool, let alone college.
Egoist
Master Don Juan
didn't clint eastwood just have one at 70+ with his hottie thirtysomething wife?Wyldfire said:
nothing wrong with that
better that than a struggling single mom.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She'll still be a single mother and the poor kid will grow up without a father.Egoist said:didn't clint eastwood just have one at 70+ with his hottie thirtysomething wife?
nothing wrong with that
better that than a struggling single mom.
If he did just have a kid I have lost ALL respect for him.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
*Phone ringing*
Wyldfire: "Hello?"
Clint Eastwood: "Is this Wyldfire?"
Wyldfire: "Yes, it is."
Clint Eastwood: "Would it be okay with you if I had a child with my wife?"
Wyldfire: "Not unless you want to lose my respect."
Clint Eastwood: "Oh, heaven forbid! What was I thinking?! Okay, I won't spread my seed wherever I please just because I am an Alpha Male who will make a kid rich enough to BUY a father when I pass away. Thanks for straightening me out."
However, a naturally ageing woman who looks after her appearance, stays fashionable, in shape, well groomed and retains some class is as hot as any 20 year old in my opinion.
To me, age is not the determining factor, it's more about pride. A good example is Susan Sarandon and Britney Spears. Give me Susan Sarandon any night of the week!
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Friendly Otter
Don Juan
Yes, sadly. This is only natural: all through history those women who looked good (who show signs of fertility and health, that is, such as smooth unblemished skin) would marry early on, then have children and pass on their genes - the genes of women who look fertile and healthy in their teens and twenties. Since noone had kids in their thirties (when most people started dying, in the Stone Age), there would be no natural selection in that age, with only the women who still look good in their thirties passing on their genes.wheelin&dealin said:
Nature is, as usual, economical with its gifts.
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STR8UP said:
Strange, the old bird is peculiarly silent . . .
Wyldfire said:Facts:
The average age of menopause is 51.
Women are still able to have children as long as they have eggs and menstruate.
Many women over 30 look as good as, if not better than their younger counterparts
Those are the facts. Anyone who claims otherwise is blowing hot air out their arses.
No, I'm not stating these facts because I am bothered by men my age or older dating younger women. In fact, I couldn't care less what men my age and older do because I don't find those men attractive. As one of those older women who look great...I don't have to "settle" for guys my own age...I get the younger ones.
I was going to reply to this...but decided that it was not worth my time to debate with a middle age woman about this issue.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Freewheelin Frank
Banned
Plus older ladies are much better geared toward my interests and temperment, for the most part. For example I'd have a much easier time finding a 40 year old woman who likes to discuss politics and current events than a 20 year old.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
It smells like "I don't care if an 18 year old likes older women" in here.
Does anyone else smell that?
Ewww... gross.
Jeez, somebody grab the can of "Go back to the High School Forum" spray and turn on a fan.
Women get older and look for trophy boy toys because the men their age aren't having anything to do with them. Why? They are used up, burnt out, bitter, broken, whackos, have kids, got the clap, whatever. If the younger men are foolish enough to get with 'em, hey, they can have 'em.
Freewheelin Frank said:
You are 18...therefore, finding a 28 year old woman sexier is acceptable. I also find them sexier.
But finding a 40 year old woman sexier (when you are 18?)??? A woman that old that goes out with a man that young has some serious self esteem issues.
I am in my upper 30s. I find many women in their 30s and some in their 40s sexy. But my experience is; women are at their best between the 25-29 year old range. After that, MOST have issues or bitterness. MOST...not all.
My girlfriend is older than me...but she is almost an exception to the rule (more importantly, she is very independent and doesn't want kids).
I would say that based on my experience, over 95% of them (single ones) are like that. Sad...very sad...but true.
Freewheelin Frank
Banned
I do, and I'm not ashamed to say it.Latinoman said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.