"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Will the reputation of being a player hurt ur chances of getting a girl????
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
As long as you are doing everything right, it won't matter if they think you're a player, and they view players in a negative way. There may be a little more initial resistance, but it's nothing to worry about.
It depends on the girl.
My coworker wanted to hook me up with her sister in law, but I have a rep as a player and her sister in law is looking for a husband. So she refused to even introduce me to her.
My interns know my reputation as a player and want to go out with me and see if its true. (No bill clinton scandal for me, I keep my hands off the interns).
The difference, one is older with children, the others are 20-22 and in college.
Some women like the challenge, some who have been played don't want to be bothered, they want a symp or square to settle down with.
Depends on the woman. Your best bet is to always downplay your player rep. Never admit to it or brag about all the women you date.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.