She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ExactlyVice said:This is a fantastic idea, I've put it in my notebook. Thank you.
The way I would approach this is to get her to your house and use it more of as a situational activity rather than using it as a reason for her to come over.
Guitar Hero/Rock Band is also an excellent choice.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Really? You have a source to prove that? I highly doubt girls ages 15-20 own more Wii's and DS's than guys do.Mandiblard said:More females than males own a DS and Wii. Shove that fact down your system nerds.
Not only is Wii heaps of fun for all involved, but you can tease them about "playing with my Wii" etc. and have it lead somewhere. If you're insecure about playing videogames and enjoying entertainment then you must have a pretty sad depressed life. No, girls aren't attracted to losers, so enjoy your life and invite them into it.
I really dont think its a big deal...im sure if you didnt want someone to know something about you, then you wouldnt tell them. So whats the difference? Maybe you like to jerk off three times a day. But would you mention something like that to a girl if she asked? Of course not.gmillar said:Anyway who pretends not to like something like video games so that girls will like him more seriously needs to rethink his life. You have two options:
1. Stop playing video games.
2. Realize that they really aren't as uncool as some people think. Don't go around telling every single person how much you pwn at Halo, but if you're ashamed of something you like doing, you have issues.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Well said Energizer. Mrpimpin obviously wants to own a wii for the girls only :flowers:TheEnergizer said:mrpimpin even if it could be useful once or twice its not worth paying for it solely for inviting a girl over once or twice to come play... i mean if you want it fine but if your just gonna use it for something you could have without a wii (no pun) then i dont see why you should buy it.
I wouldn't ever invite a girl over to play wii unless she was just a friend or family. If she was already over and interested sure.TheEnergizer said:mrpimpin even if it could be useful once or twice its not worth paying for it solely for inviting a girl over once or twice to come play... i mean if you want it fine but if your just gonna use it for something you could have without a wii (no pun) then i dont see why you should buy it.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.