You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ExactlyVice said:This is a fantastic idea, I've put it in my notebook. Thank you.
The way I would approach this is to get her to your house and use it more of as a situational activity rather than using it as a reason for her to come over.
Guitar Hero/Rock Band is also an excellent choice.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Really? You have a source to prove that? I highly doubt girls ages 15-20 own more Wii's and DS's than guys do.Mandiblard said:More females than males own a DS and Wii. Shove that fact down your system nerds.
Not only is Wii heaps of fun for all involved, but you can tease them about "playing with my Wii" etc. and have it lead somewhere. If you're insecure about playing videogames and enjoying entertainment then you must have a pretty sad depressed life. No, girls aren't attracted to losers, so enjoy your life and invite them into it.
I really dont think its a big deal...im sure if you didnt want someone to know something about you, then you wouldnt tell them. So whats the difference? Maybe you like to jerk off three times a day. But would you mention something like that to a girl if she asked? Of course not.gmillar said:Anyway who pretends not to like something like video games so that girls will like him more seriously needs to rethink his life. You have two options:
1. Stop playing video games.
2. Realize that they really aren't as uncool as some people think. Don't go around telling every single person how much you pwn at Halo, but if you're ashamed of something you like doing, you have issues.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Well said Energizer. Mrpimpin obviously wants to own a wii for the girls only :flowers:TheEnergizer said:mrpimpin even if it could be useful once or twice its not worth paying for it solely for inviting a girl over once or twice to come play... i mean if you want it fine but if your just gonna use it for something you could have without a wii (no pun) then i dont see why you should buy it.
I wouldn't ever invite a girl over to play wii unless she was just a friend or family. If she was already over and interested sure.TheEnergizer said:mrpimpin even if it could be useful once or twice its not worth paying for it solely for inviting a girl over once or twice to come play... i mean if you want it fine but if your just gonna use it for something you could have without a wii (no pun) then i dont see why you should buy it.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.