You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ExactlyVice said:This is a fantastic idea, I've put it in my notebook. Thank you.
The way I would approach this is to get her to your house and use it more of as a situational activity rather than using it as a reason for her to come over.
Guitar Hero/Rock Band is also an excellent choice.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Really? You have a source to prove that? I highly doubt girls ages 15-20 own more Wii's and DS's than guys do.Mandiblard said:More females than males own a DS and Wii. Shove that fact down your system nerds.
Not only is Wii heaps of fun for all involved, but you can tease them about "playing with my Wii" etc. and have it lead somewhere. If you're insecure about playing videogames and enjoying entertainment then you must have a pretty sad depressed life. No, girls aren't attracted to losers, so enjoy your life and invite them into it.
I really dont think its a big deal...im sure if you didnt want someone to know something about you, then you wouldnt tell them. So whats the difference? Maybe you like to jerk off three times a day. But would you mention something like that to a girl if she asked? Of course not.gmillar said:Anyway who pretends not to like something like video games so that girls will like him more seriously needs to rethink his life. You have two options:
1. Stop playing video games.
2. Realize that they really aren't as uncool as some people think. Don't go around telling every single person how much you pwn at Halo, but if you're ashamed of something you like doing, you have issues.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Well said Energizer. Mrpimpin obviously wants to own a wii for the girls only :flowers:TheEnergizer said:mrpimpin even if it could be useful once or twice its not worth paying for it solely for inviting a girl over once or twice to come play... i mean if you want it fine but if your just gonna use it for something you could have without a wii (no pun) then i dont see why you should buy it.
I wouldn't ever invite a girl over to play wii unless she was just a friend or family. If she was already over and interested sure.TheEnergizer said:mrpimpin even if it could be useful once or twice its not worth paying for it solely for inviting a girl over once or twice to come play... i mean if you want it fine but if your just gonna use it for something you could have without a wii (no pun) then i dont see why you should buy it.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.