She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
ExactlyVice said:This is a fantastic idea, I've put it in my notebook. Thank you.
The way I would approach this is to get her to your house and use it more of as a situational activity rather than using it as a reason for her to come over.
Guitar Hero/Rock Band is also an excellent choice.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Really? You have a source to prove that? I highly doubt girls ages 15-20 own more Wii's and DS's than guys do.Mandiblard said:More females than males own a DS and Wii. Shove that fact down your system nerds.
Not only is Wii heaps of fun for all involved, but you can tease them about "playing with my Wii" etc. and have it lead somewhere. If you're insecure about playing videogames and enjoying entertainment then you must have a pretty sad depressed life. No, girls aren't attracted to losers, so enjoy your life and invite them into it.
I really dont think its a big deal...im sure if you didnt want someone to know something about you, then you wouldnt tell them. So whats the difference? Maybe you like to jerk off three times a day. But would you mention something like that to a girl if she asked? Of course not.gmillar said:Anyway who pretends not to like something like video games so that girls will like him more seriously needs to rethink his life. You have two options:
1. Stop playing video games.
2. Realize that they really aren't as uncool as some people think. Don't go around telling every single person how much you pwn at Halo, but if you're ashamed of something you like doing, you have issues.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well said Energizer. Mrpimpin obviously wants to own a wii for the girls only :flowers:TheEnergizer said:mrpimpin even if it could be useful once or twice its not worth paying for it solely for inviting a girl over once or twice to come play... i mean if you want it fine but if your just gonna use it for something you could have without a wii (no pun) then i dont see why you should buy it.
I wouldn't ever invite a girl over to play wii unless she was just a friend or family. If she was already over and interested sure.TheEnergizer said:mrpimpin even if it could be useful once or twice its not worth paying for it solely for inviting a girl over once or twice to come play... i mean if you want it fine but if your just gonna use it for something you could have without a wii (no pun) then i dont see why you should buy it.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.