She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ExactlyVice said:This is a fantastic idea, I've put it in my notebook. Thank you.
The way I would approach this is to get her to your house and use it more of as a situational activity rather than using it as a reason for her to come over.
Guitar Hero/Rock Band is also an excellent choice.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Really? You have a source to prove that? I highly doubt girls ages 15-20 own more Wii's and DS's than guys do.Mandiblard said:More females than males own a DS and Wii. Shove that fact down your system nerds.
Not only is Wii heaps of fun for all involved, but you can tease them about "playing with my Wii" etc. and have it lead somewhere. If you're insecure about playing videogames and enjoying entertainment then you must have a pretty sad depressed life. No, girls aren't attracted to losers, so enjoy your life and invite them into it.
I really dont think its a big deal...im sure if you didnt want someone to know something about you, then you wouldnt tell them. So whats the difference? Maybe you like to jerk off three times a day. But would you mention something like that to a girl if she asked? Of course not.gmillar said:Anyway who pretends not to like something like video games so that girls will like him more seriously needs to rethink his life. You have two options:
1. Stop playing video games.
2. Realize that they really aren't as uncool as some people think. Don't go around telling every single person how much you pwn at Halo, but if you're ashamed of something you like doing, you have issues.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Well said Energizer. Mrpimpin obviously wants to own a wii for the girls only :flowers:TheEnergizer said:mrpimpin even if it could be useful once or twice its not worth paying for it solely for inviting a girl over once or twice to come play... i mean if you want it fine but if your just gonna use it for something you could have without a wii (no pun) then i dont see why you should buy it.
I wouldn't ever invite a girl over to play wii unless she was just a friend or family. If she was already over and interested sure.TheEnergizer said:mrpimpin even if it could be useful once or twice its not worth paying for it solely for inviting a girl over once or twice to come play... i mean if you want it fine but if your just gonna use it for something you could have without a wii (no pun) then i dont see why you should buy it.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.