"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
why should I give you a chance? shyt test
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Uncharted
Master Don Juan
see, this is the weak qualifying response that you want to avoid.MidnightCity said:
you will end up working too hard for her pvssy that you will never get to touch.
do you think she is saying sh!t like to guys who have high value? hell no, she is working to qualify herself to them.
don't work from behind, always be on top
MidnightCity said:
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a very defensive post, no self defeating at all, when a chick doesn't like you what are you going to do? beg? thats the beta mindset you're coming from.
sounds to me like this is a regular occurance for you.
it's obvious to me that you don't know what you're talking about.
a guy who's a 4 trying to date a 6 has lower value, a guy who's a 7 has higher value over the 6, learn something bro.
thats why this girl isnt going out with "the majority" of guys, 8's, 9's go out with a select few, learn something about women bro.
any dude who looks better than her has higher value.
you give bad advice, your come back is lame sh!t like this, i've seen it before.
i never had a girl say something like this to me bro that had interest, girls say this to guys they aren't interested in, keep truckin bro
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Albatross953
Master Don Juan
You did something to make her ask that and it seems like you haven't established enough rapport with her.joker79 said:
But anyway I would respond with things you actually have. You don't want to qualify yourself to her but you don't want her to think you are defensive.
I would actually respond with: "I have a house, a car, education, a job, I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, criminal record and never been in jail. Probably better than half the men out there right now. I think if I'm willing to give you chance you should meet me halfway."
Let her come back and say: "I'm too good for you. I'm too sexy. My standards are high. I need a rich man." Then you know what she is about.
Move onto the next. Keep a strong frame. That girl for some reason got the impression you were supplicating for a date. Keep it casual. Maintain plausible deniability. You could respond by adding "I was only talking about hanging out!"
The only way you should be expressing "interest" in a girl, is by offering a casual hangout, Kino, flirting, and escalating (which is just having fun -Not a big deal-) You're naturally a flirtatious guy, it means NOTHING.
There should be no connotations of "me and you", having a chance together, having a relationship, or anything of the like. You just met.
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Couldn't disagree more. That would be qualifying yourself to the girl.Trump said:
All of these things are implying:
1) I have plenty of money to spend on you
2) I will make a great husband and provider
You don't know the woman and have never been on a date with her.
If you offer a woman your salary, car, and house as an incentive for a date...Don't be surprised when 4-5 years down the road your sitting in divorce court and she leaves with all of the above.
Special EDy
Don Juan
Make the concession this one time, so long as you dont make a habit of it and flip the power position the first chance you get its a win. Whatever it takes to get in her pants. You cant be alpha 100% of the time, 99% of the time will get you a lot farther in life.
All the more power to you for knowing that you behaved this way and using it to take one tiny step back to make great leaps forward. There is a difference between being and acting.
i would just avoid a relationship which starts like this. It is pretty fascinating how similar my dating philosophy to anti dump's stuff, I dont have to prove sh1t to a chick, if she wants to be around, I will consider that, if not, too bad for her. you dont have to prove her sh1t, she doesnt worth it regardless of her looks and there thousands of substitutes for her.
Thorninmyside
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This. It is short enough but ****y and funny enough. It inclines her to reply to validate herself of which you can then carry on the conversation or invite her out. Just have to have laid the foundations of flirtations etc before you got to this point.Mauser96 said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.