You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
see, this is the weak qualifying response that you want to avoid.MidnightCity said:"because eventually youre gonna realize im the one who gave you a chance"
MidnightCity said:"because eventually youre gonna realize im the one who gave you a chance"
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its always obvious who acutally interacts with women and who just reads what they wish they could do.
sorry to break it to you asa_don but the majority of guys are not "high value males" which makes your logic flawed and advice completely pointless.
for the every man, everything should be treated as a sh*t test. especially when youre in doubt.
youre basically advising him to maintain a self defeating mentality. might as well tell guys "dont approach girls, they only respond to celebreity approaches"
some girls are cvntier to deal with. doesnt mean you cant get through to them.
please, go out and interact with women before you start giving advice here. the lack of experience and afc mindsets of some of the regulars here is glaringly obvious
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You did something to make her ask that and it seems like you haven't established enough rapport with her.joker79 said:guys I need a good comeback for this attention ***** that wants to be pedestalised. Never asked for a chance. Any good ideas?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Couldn't disagree more. That would be qualifying yourself to the girl.Trump said:I would actually respond with: "I have a house, a car, education, a job, I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, criminal record and never been in jail. Probably better than half the men out there right now. I think if I'm willing to give you chance you should meet me halfway.".
This. It is short enough but ****y and funny enough. It inclines her to reply to validate herself of which you can then carry on the conversation or invite her out. Just have to have laid the foundations of flirtations etc before you got to this point.Mauser96 said:"YOU give ME a chance? Lol, don't flatter yourself"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.