That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
see, this is the weak qualifying response that you want to avoid.MidnightCity said:"because eventually youre gonna realize im the one who gave you a chance"
MidnightCity said:"because eventually youre gonna realize im the one who gave you a chance"
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its always obvious who acutally interacts with women and who just reads what they wish they could do.
sorry to break it to you asa_don but the majority of guys are not "high value males" which makes your logic flawed and advice completely pointless.
for the every man, everything should be treated as a sh*t test. especially when youre in doubt.
youre basically advising him to maintain a self defeating mentality. might as well tell guys "dont approach girls, they only respond to celebreity approaches"
some girls are cvntier to deal with. doesnt mean you cant get through to them.
please, go out and interact with women before you start giving advice here. the lack of experience and afc mindsets of some of the regulars here is glaringly obvious
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You did something to make her ask that and it seems like you haven't established enough rapport with her.joker79 said:guys I need a good comeback for this attention ***** that wants to be pedestalised. Never asked for a chance. Any good ideas?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Couldn't disagree more. That would be qualifying yourself to the girl.Trump said:I would actually respond with: "I have a house, a car, education, a job, I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, criminal record and never been in jail. Probably better than half the men out there right now. I think if I'm willing to give you chance you should meet me halfway.".
This. It is short enough but ****y and funny enough. It inclines her to reply to validate herself of which you can then carry on the conversation or invite her out. Just have to have laid the foundations of flirtations etc before you got to this point.Mauser96 said:"YOU give ME a chance? Lol, don't flatter yourself"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.