"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
why should I give you a chance? shyt test
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Uncharted
Master Don Juan
see, this is the weak qualifying response that you want to avoid.MidnightCity said:
you will end up working too hard for her pvssy that you will never get to touch.
do you think she is saying sh!t like to guys who have high value? hell no, she is working to qualify herself to them.
don't work from behind, always be on top
MidnightCity said:
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a very defensive post, no self defeating at all, when a chick doesn't like you what are you going to do? beg? thats the beta mindset you're coming from.
sounds to me like this is a regular occurance for you.
it's obvious to me that you don't know what you're talking about.
a guy who's a 4 trying to date a 6 has lower value, a guy who's a 7 has higher value over the 6, learn something bro.
thats why this girl isnt going out with "the majority" of guys, 8's, 9's go out with a select few, learn something about women bro.
any dude who looks better than her has higher value.
you give bad advice, your come back is lame sh!t like this, i've seen it before.
i never had a girl say something like this to me bro that had interest, girls say this to guys they aren't interested in, keep truckin bro
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Albatross953
Master Don Juan
You did something to make her ask that and it seems like you haven't established enough rapport with her.joker79 said:
But anyway I would respond with things you actually have. You don't want to qualify yourself to her but you don't want her to think you are defensive.
I would actually respond with: "I have a house, a car, education, a job, I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, criminal record and never been in jail. Probably better than half the men out there right now. I think if I'm willing to give you chance you should meet me halfway."
Let her come back and say: "I'm too good for you. I'm too sexy. My standards are high. I need a rich man." Then you know what she is about.
Move onto the next. Keep a strong frame. That girl for some reason got the impression you were supplicating for a date. Keep it casual. Maintain plausible deniability. You could respond by adding "I was only talking about hanging out!"
The only way you should be expressing "interest" in a girl, is by offering a casual hangout, Kino, flirting, and escalating (which is just having fun -Not a big deal-) You're naturally a flirtatious guy, it means NOTHING.
There should be no connotations of "me and you", having a chance together, having a relationship, or anything of the like. You just met.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Couldn't disagree more. That would be qualifying yourself to the girl.Trump said:
All of these things are implying:
1) I have plenty of money to spend on you
2) I will make a great husband and provider
You don't know the woman and have never been on a date with her.
If you offer a woman your salary, car, and house as an incentive for a date...Don't be surprised when 4-5 years down the road your sitting in divorce court and she leaves with all of the above.
Special EDy
Don Juan
Make the concession this one time, so long as you dont make a habit of it and flip the power position the first chance you get its a win. Whatever it takes to get in her pants. You cant be alpha 100% of the time, 99% of the time will get you a lot farther in life.
All the more power to you for knowing that you behaved this way and using it to take one tiny step back to make great leaps forward. There is a difference between being and acting.
i would just avoid a relationship which starts like this. It is pretty fascinating how similar my dating philosophy to anti dump's stuff, I dont have to prove sh1t to a chick, if she wants to be around, I will consider that, if not, too bad for her. you dont have to prove her sh1t, she doesnt worth it regardless of her looks and there thousands of substitutes for her.
Thorninmyside
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This. It is short enough but ****y and funny enough. It inclines her to reply to validate herself of which you can then carry on the conversation or invite her out. Just have to have laid the foundations of flirtations etc before you got to this point.Mauser96 said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.