why is showing emotion unattractive?

[PlatoPacks23]

whenever I talk too much or just start talking how I (honestly) feel, it seems to turn people off esp woman... or "overly sharing"

And yet when I feel "Fake" and just pretend everything is great without getting overtly excited and act kinda "stoic" it seems to work better.

WHY is this? showing emotion and being more upfront w my guy friends doesn't seem to be an issue, I just don't understand the reasoning behind it.

obviously it's not great to feel "stoic and fake" all the time, but it seems like that's what works better w woman I just don't enjoy feeling like I'm faking it.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Cringy emotion is unattractive. A guy who owns himself is the hottest guy in the room.

To add a more fair response: an emotional guy seems like a woman. And women don't like other women. Us men are superheroes. We have the ability to shut off our emotions and that makes girls admire us and feel like we can protect them. Put a bearded manchild in the same room as a bearded army soldier, and the women 9 times out of 10 will keep near the soldier, especially in less secure situations.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

If your emotions are positive, uplifting, self confident, filled with agency, contagious = attractive

If your emotions are negative, weak, "poor me," lacking any agency, etc. = unattractive

Slim, young, low body count, feminine women = attractive

Old, angry, fat, tatted up, ran through = unattractive

Not really all that complicated.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It's not. Lack of control over your emotions is.

 

[BPH]

It's not. Lack of control over your emotions is.

@PlatoPacks23 this.

Women want a man. You don't have to pretend not to have problems - just know the woman you're talking to doesn't have the solution for them. In which case, why share?

 

[PlatoPacks23]

@PlatoPacks23 this.

Women want a man. You don't have to pretend not to have problems - just know the woman you're talking to doesn't have the solution for them. In which case, why share?

I wouldn't say its complaining, id say I find when I get too excited or "happy", it can maybe come across reactive or not manly?

basically I find being stoic and kinda on 1 level no matte what (which is boring and annoying and "fake" to me) is only thing that kinda works.

 

[BPH]

I wouldn't say its complaining, id say I find when I get too excited or "happy", it can maybe come across reactive or not manly?

basically I find being stoic and kinda on 1 level no matte what (which is boring and annoying and "fake" to me) is only thing that kinda works.

Either mirror her energy level, or find someone who's already at yours.

Lower energy = Boring, shy, uninteresting

Higher energy = Overeager, hyper, exhausting

Just try to keep an even keel.

 

[BaronOfHair]

whenever I talk too much or just start talking how I (honestly) feel, it seems to turn people off...

Start writing them a check for being your shrink, '23.... These folks will become enamored with you in record time