why is showing emotion unattractive?

[BackInTheGame78]

Its because of their upbringing, ger brain was wired to seek the hormone of happiness, when you got angry it was familiar, because her brain thinks, well if he gets mad and start swearing, at least he cares just like my dad/mom.


It literally has nothing to do with him.

Sure it does...if he acted like this all the time she likely wouldn't be with him

 

[Bokanovsky]

whenever I talk too much or just start talking how I (honestly) feel, it seems to turn people off esp woman... or "overly sharing"

And yet when I feel "Fake" and just pretend everything is great without getting overtly excited and act kinda "stoic" it seems to work better.

WHY is this? showing emotion and being more upfront w my guy friends doesn't seem to be an issue, I just don't understand the reasoning behind it.

obviously it's not great to feel "stoic and fake" all the time, but it seems like that's what works better w woman I just don't enjoy feeling like I'm faking it.

I wouldn't say that showing emotion is inherently unattractive. It depends on what emotions you show and how you show them. Display of positive emotions, such as being upbeat, confident and optimistic is very attractive. On the other hand, constant negativity, whining, and portraying yourself as a victim can make you look stupid and/or weak.

 

[CoolWave1331]

You're human, it's okay to show emotion, everyone does at different times.

It's (more) important to know when/how to show them and also be able to have handle on them. I think this is the real problem. Example there some men who break down a lot, almost seems like life is in crisis 24/7. This is not good. Other extreme is angry guys who are extremely confrontational, go around picking fights all the time. This is just plain stupid guys. You need to find balance.

I have some books from Seneca and Marcus Aurelius. Stoic philosophy, it's practical but not applicable all situations. Sometimes need to show emotion to connect with others and to get point across.

 

[Drmuscular]

Women like emotions, they want to feel them and have men understand theirs. Its not that she dislikes you displaying emotions, if you were to fight a dangerous person enraged while saving her, that is showing emotion and she would LOVE that. She dislikes emotions because when she tests you she knows that you as a man can never lose on a real confrontation with her, having a woman affect you enough to spark emotion means that she is either superior or the same level as you, thus making her unsure.

I may ask you, if you were suddenly rich and famous, would you care what the random bum will say about you? No, you wouldn't even perceive it, the whole point of frame is displaying your superiority, or you being the "prize" with your behaviors and emotions, though I can add that some people on this forum overly exaggerate this concept and this clearly can lead to losing a girl regardless of how much "Frame" you have if she doesn't see value in you.

The only emotion she should be able to evoke is happiness, care, love, when she is being good with you, and indifference/annoyance when she is being disrespectful.

 

[New_Journey]

Sure it does...if he acted like this all the time she likely wouldn't be with him

Proves my point. She won't like that behavior because in her brain it creates anxiety and not happy hormones, therefore, she decides to not be with him. Its not him, it is laterally her.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Proves my point. She won't like that behavior because in her brain it creates anxiety and not happy hormones, therefore, she decides to not be with him. Its not him, it is laterally her.

Not really.

It's the same concept of how your body needs water to survive but if you drink too much water you end up dying from irregular heart rhythm due to diluting sodium and potassium too much.

As with anything, the details are in the dosage.

 

[New_Journey]

Not really.

It's the same concept of how your body needs water to survive but if you drink too much water you end up dying from irregular heart rhythm due to diluting sodium and potassium too much.

As with anything, the details are in the dosage.

Fantastic, you made a complete different statement to disagree with what I said, your ego is so funny hahaha

dosage.

Dosage of what? Of happy hormones vs not so happy? brother, you are fbcked in the head man.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Fantastic, you made a complete different statement to disagree with what I said, your ego is so funny hahaha


Dosage of what? Of happy hormones vs not so happy? brother, you are fbcked in the head man.

Why are you so angry?

Is it Tren season again?

Get off that sh!t man...it causes rage.