Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
...rsxtreme said:
or self conscious,
or an AFC,
or a jealous Neanderthal,
or a defeatist,
or self critical...
The list can go on and on...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why "Be yourself" is the best advice in the world...and why no one gets it.
- Thread starter squirrels
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or self conscious,
or an AFC,
or a jealous Neanderthal,
or a defeatist,
or self critical...
The list can go on and on...
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Ol'BlueEyes
Senior Don Juan
True that, Francisco...
That being said, nobody's perfect. Even guys with the aforementioned issues (and some with far more) can land HB's. Heck, some are convinced that the issues you listed are advantagious.
That being said, nobody's perfect. Even guys with the aforementioned issues (and some with far more) can land HB's. Heck, some are convinced that the issues you listed are advantagious.
It works in the sense that you're being honest with women you meet, therefore they'll have a better appraisal of you; it's not a PUA method.
squirrels:
Great post! Infact this is one of the best posts I have read on here...
It's all about allowing; allowing to be yourself, and allowing the things you desire to come to you, without resisting them in any way.
Have you read The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent by abraham-hicks?
Or The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle?
Great post! Infact this is one of the best posts I have read on here...
It's all about allowing; allowing to be yourself, and allowing the things you desire to come to you, without resisting them in any way.
Have you read The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent by abraham-hicks?
Or The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle?
Yeah i like this post. Being yourself
making your own deicions.
sorting out negitive thinking patterns.
feeling comfortable in your own skin.
not needing anybody elses approval.
Cool post
But lets get something straight..being yourself isnt an excuse for lazyness or being a wuss. As men we need to be the best we can and that means changing anything that makes us unattractive
making your own deicions.
sorting out negitive thinking patterns.
feeling comfortable in your own skin.
not needing anybody elses approval.
Cool post
But lets get something straight..being yourself isnt an excuse for lazyness or being a wuss. As men we need to be the best we can and that means changing anything that makes us unattractive
jiza101
Master Don Juan
Good to see we still have a few society zombies here who want someone to hold their hand while they approach and give them signals on how to approach. This post isn't about doing the same thing you do now, its about removing all the bull**** society has put in your head over the years, the same things that have ****ed your life up. Things ranging from approaching women, do being a *****, to kissing ass, you name it. When you believe in yourself and go with your REAL INSTINCT, not the bull**** society "instinct" you gain a HUGE amount of confidence, and you actually learn from situations.
I don't know about you guys, but as of tomorrow I am going on a journey, one where I will fall flat on my ass, AND feel like im flying, I have had enough of everyone telling me to act this way to get this, remember, the fun is in the journey, not the destination. Every single "technique" created by a guru was created from EXPERIENCE, ANYTHING will work once you have removed all of the bull**** society imposed blockers. So, start believing in yourself and go after what you want. To all the robots here who want techniques, all I will say is that one day you will realize it is about more than a set of do this and this and achieve this, I just hope you are willing to think of the possibilities.
A book that explains all this REALLY well is tyler durdens - blueprint, he has a good way of explaining everything, it will be out soon. It is time to start living guys, I know a lot of older guys here want techniques NOW because they don't want to tick their life away reaching their end goal of getting women, but once you embrace the journey getting there, then it is worth it.
I don't know about you guys, but as of tomorrow I am going on a journey, one where I will fall flat on my ass, AND feel like im flying, I have had enough of everyone telling me to act this way to get this, remember, the fun is in the journey, not the destination. Every single "technique" created by a guru was created from EXPERIENCE, ANYTHING will work once you have removed all of the bull**** society imposed blockers. So, start believing in yourself and go after what you want. To all the robots here who want techniques, all I will say is that one day you will realize it is about more than a set of do this and this and achieve this, I just hope you are willing to think of the possibilities.
A book that explains all this REALLY well is tyler durdens - blueprint, he has a good way of explaining everything, it will be out soon. It is time to start living guys, I know a lot of older guys here want techniques NOW because they don't want to tick their life away reaching their end goal of getting women, but once you embrace the journey getting there, then it is worth it.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The Juan and only
Master Don Juan
jiza101 said:
Ol'BlueEyes
Senior Don Juan
This is a good thread...
...and it deserves a bump.
Just being yourself is fine if it prompts action, not stagflation.
There is a phrase which is much, much worse that my mother used to say:
"It'll just happen eventually."
...and it deserves a bump.
Just being yourself is fine if it prompts action, not stagflation.
There is a phrase which is much, much worse that my mother used to say:
"It'll just happen eventually."
manbearpig
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I've gotten the "just wait and it will happen one day" answer a bunch from family members(from my older brother to my dad) and it is indeed very frustrating. Its definitely a non-answer.Ol'BlueEyes said:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I know what you're saying. I'd ask them if that were true and everyone believed it, what would they think would happen if everyone sat with their thumbs up their @ss.manbearpig said:
Man, the just be yourself advice is the greatest thing in the world when it comes to getting girls. I do whatever I want all the time. I burp in front of the girls and I'm off the walls crazy, but all the girls I hang out with wish they were dating me. How do I know this? Because they've told me! So everyone just be yourself.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Who would have known that lack of control of bodily functions would be such a turn on to women....danro said:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Yeah everybody! Be just like drano and do what he does, just be yourself!!!! :crackup:danro said:
Ol'BlueEyes
Senior Don Juan
You charmer, you.
typical
Master Don Juan
God yet another guy that doesn't understand the meaning of being yourself ......... yes young grasshopper burping and acting like a buffoon is being yourself (I wonder what sort of chicks fall for that crap must be really desperate ones) ........ yes go back to your seduction books now.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Wonderbread166
Senior Don Juan
squirrels, thanks for this.
izza
Master Don Juan
Squirrels, this is an excellent post. Thanks a million.
Put briefly, the biggest barrier to being our ideal selves is the pressure we feel to be ideal? Remove the pressure and we become exactly what we wanted to become?
And, we need faith. Being yourself isn't so simple after all!
Oh well, food for thought, I'll get back to you. Very thought provoking.
Izza
Put briefly, the biggest barrier to being our ideal selves is the pressure we feel to be ideal? Remove the pressure and we become exactly what we wanted to become?
And, we need faith. Being yourself isn't so simple after all!
Oh well, food for thought, I'll get back to you. Very thought provoking.
Izza
Like I said at page 1. Hitler's mother told him to just be himself. The same thing with Jeffrey Dahmer, Pol Pot's mother (of course she said it in Cambodian).
You were right about me not needing to get laid. I've tried to explain that to my gonads a million times, but they keep pumping out the testosterone. What can you do?
Like all these theories they sound nice up to the point where they specify the day when the flying saucer is going to take the believers to Alpha Centauri, (or Jonestown whatever).
The image of you as the Zen master balling your eyes out over your Oneitis didn't help with the sales pitch either.
You were right about me not needing to get laid. I've tried to explain that to my gonads a million times, but they keep pumping out the testosterone. What can you do?
Like all these theories they sound nice up to the point where they specify the day when the flying saucer is going to take the believers to Alpha Centauri, (or Jonestown whatever).
The image of you as the Zen master balling your eyes out over your Oneitis didn't help with the sales pitch either.
I love Hyori Lee
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Bumped this so that guys from LS can read our better posts.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.