"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Who is ready to man up? BOOTCAMP
- Thread starter Sofomore
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
daftsavage
Don Juan
I'm in.
Location: Japan
Age: 23
Status: Employed, traveling
Ht 186cm
Wt 160
Goal: build the harem
Masculinity
Master Don Juan
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Location: Los Angeles
Name: Robyn
Age: 22
Status: Undergraduate student
Height: 6' 0"
Weight: 185
Goals: Regain confidence I lost after LTR break-up, lose AA, & have options.
PS: Man, I wish I would have known where some of you guys are from when I lived in Boston. There are many of you here who live in New England. Anyone
in Southern California? I have met a few people from this site and they are of great interchangeable support.
Saw this video, and thought it might help, it's by a group of guys who made a youtube channel called simple pickup:
Scared of Talking to Girls? - Simple Tips
When the DJ Bible was first made, video resources like youtube weren't around. Without bombarding this thread with loads of videos and derailing it, I think it's not a bad idea to share interesting and potentially helpful videos in this bootcamp thread.
What do you think of the video guys?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Super Hero
Don Juan
Location: India
Name: Super Hero
Age: 20
Status: College junior
Ht: 5'9"
Wt: 132.277357
Goal: Improve how I relate with women, dissolving anxiety and being Great.
Lol...I said it might be a good idea to post videos that might be helpful to the bootcamp without bombarding/derailing the thread.TheMale said:
i.e. post video links that are relevant to bootcamp lessons (confidence, reducing approach anxiety etc) but don't go overboard.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
?"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Rubato
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I was just about to ask that. I'm going out after I finish my genetics project. If nothing is up, I will post my FR in my journal. I'm also going to be wiring myself up with a mic and digital audio recorder so I can have an objective source to analyze all of this stuff from. I will post them to the purevolume account I have posted some of my music under for you all to scrutinizeEuropean-DJ said:Anyone making the new topic, so we can start updating and stuff
Course description: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=189920
Week 1: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=189921
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.