"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Who is ready to man up? BOOTCAMP
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
daftsavage
Don Juan
I'm in.
Location: Japan
Age: 23
Status: Employed, traveling
Ht 186cm
Wt 160
Goal: build the harem
Masculinity
Master Don Juan
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Location: Los Angeles
Name: Robyn
Age: 22
Status: Undergraduate student
Height: 6' 0"
Weight: 185
Goals: Regain confidence I lost after LTR break-up, lose AA, & have options.
PS: Man, I wish I would have known where some of you guys are from when I lived in Boston. There are many of you here who live in New England. Anyone
in Southern California? I have met a few people from this site and they are of great interchangeable support.
Saw this video, and thought it might help, it's by a group of guys who made a youtube channel called simple pickup:
Scared of Talking to Girls? - Simple Tips
When the DJ Bible was first made, video resources like youtube weren't around. Without bombarding this thread with loads of videos and derailing it, I think it's not a bad idea to share interesting and potentially helpful videos in this bootcamp thread.
What do you think of the video guys?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Super Hero
Don Juan
Location: India
Name: Super Hero
Age: 20
Status: College junior
Ht: 5'9"
Wt: 132.277357
Goal: Improve how I relate with women, dissolving anxiety and being Great.
Lol...I said it might be a good idea to post videos that might be helpful to the bootcamp without bombarding/derailing the thread.TheMale said:
i.e. post video links that are relevant to bootcamp lessons (confidence, reducing approach anxiety etc) but don't go overboard.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
?"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Rubato
Guest
I was just about to ask that. I'm going out after I finish my genetics project. If nothing is up, I will post my FR in my journal. I'm also going to be wiring myself up with a mic and digital audio recorder so I can have an objective source to analyze all of this stuff from. I will post them to the purevolume account I have posted some of my music under for you all to scrutinizeEuropean-DJ said:Anyone making the new topic, so we can start updating and stuff
Course description: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=189920
Week 1: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=189921
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.