"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Who is ready to man up? BOOTCAMP
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
daftsavage
Don Juan
I'm in.
Location: Japan
Age: 23
Status: Employed, traveling
Ht 186cm
Wt 160
Goal: build the harem
Masculinity
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 6, 2009
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Location: Los Angeles
Name: Robyn
Age: 22
Status: Undergraduate student
Height: 6' 0"
Weight: 185
Goals: Regain confidence I lost after LTR break-up, lose AA, & have options.
PS: Man, I wish I would have known where some of you guys are from when I lived in Boston. There are many of you here who live in New England. Anyone
in Southern California? I have met a few people from this site and they are of great interchangeable support.
Saw this video, and thought it might help, it's by a group of guys who made a youtube channel called simple pickup:
Scared of Talking to Girls? - Simple Tips
When the DJ Bible was first made, video resources like youtube weren't around. Without bombarding this thread with loads of videos and derailing it, I think it's not a bad idea to share interesting and potentially helpful videos in this bootcamp thread.
What do you think of the video guys?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Super Hero
Don Juan
Location: India
Name: Super Hero
Age: 20
Status: College junior
Ht: 5'9"
Wt: 132.277357
Goal: Improve how I relate with women, dissolving anxiety and being Great.
Lol...I said it might be a good idea to post videos that might be helpful to the bootcamp without bombarding/derailing the thread.TheMale said:
i.e. post video links that are relevant to bootcamp lessons (confidence, reducing approach anxiety etc) but don't go overboard.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
?"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Rubato
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I was just about to ask that. I'm going out after I finish my genetics project. If nothing is up, I will post my FR in my journal. I'm also going to be wiring myself up with a mic and digital audio recorder so I can have an objective source to analyze all of this stuff from. I will post them to the purevolume account I have posted some of my music under for you all to scrutinizeEuropean-DJ said:Anyone making the new topic, so we can start updating and stuff
Course description: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=189920
Week 1: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=189921
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.