"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Who is ready to man up? BOOTCAMP
- Thread starter Sofomore
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
daftsavage
Don Juan
I'm in.
Location: Japan
Age: 23
Status: Employed, traveling
Ht 186cm
Wt 160
Goal: build the harem
Masculinity
Master Don Juan
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Location: Los Angeles
Name: Robyn
Age: 22
Status: Undergraduate student
Height: 6' 0"
Weight: 185
Goals: Regain confidence I lost after LTR break-up, lose AA, & have options.
PS: Man, I wish I would have known where some of you guys are from when I lived in Boston. There are many of you here who live in New England. Anyone
in Southern California? I have met a few people from this site and they are of great interchangeable support.
Saw this video, and thought it might help, it's by a group of guys who made a youtube channel called simple pickup:
Scared of Talking to Girls? - Simple Tips
When the DJ Bible was first made, video resources like youtube weren't around. Without bombarding this thread with loads of videos and derailing it, I think it's not a bad idea to share interesting and potentially helpful videos in this bootcamp thread.
What do you think of the video guys?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Super Hero
Don Juan
Location: India
Name: Super Hero
Age: 20
Status: College junior
Ht: 5'9"
Wt: 132.277357
Goal: Improve how I relate with women, dissolving anxiety and being Great.
Lol...I said it might be a good idea to post videos that might be helpful to the bootcamp without bombarding/derailing the thread.TheMale said:
i.e. post video links that are relevant to bootcamp lessons (confidence, reducing approach anxiety etc) but don't go overboard.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
?"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Rubato
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I was just about to ask that. I'm going out after I finish my genetics project. If nothing is up, I will post my FR in my journal. I'm also going to be wiring myself up with a mic and digital audio recorder so I can have an objective source to analyze all of this stuff from. I will post them to the purevolume account I have posted some of my music under for you all to scrutinizeEuropean-DJ said:Anyone making the new topic, so we can start updating and stuff
Course description: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=189920
Week 1: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=189921
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.