flowtheory
Master Don Juan
Had sex with a woman I like last night for the first time. Do you guys usually wait for her to reach out, or do you reach out?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Who contacts who after sex first time?
- Thread starter flowtheory
- Start date
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
marmel75
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 4, 2012
- Messages
- 7,175
- Reaction score
- 5,571
Almost not worth worrying about because if she is really into you she will have messaged you before you got home.
R.U.G.
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Feb 15, 2018
- Messages
- 1,797
- Reaction score
- 1,218
Can go either way. Some women are old school and like OC16 said can ring true. However, what Marmel75 also rings true too. If she's that interested in you, she'd reach out to you and said she had a great time. Or, you can wait a day or two, reach out and said hey, I had a great time seeing you on Saturday, I'd love to see you again. When are you free?
BeExcellent
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Dec 16, 2015
- Messages
- 5,415
- Reaction score
- 7,940
- Age
- 57
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
sazc
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 23, 2016
- Messages
- 4,468
- Reaction score
- 3,402
I stand corrected. If this was the chick from last night, wait a few days. She's already in your frame. The likelihood is higher that she will subrogate, than go NC b/c you didn't reach out first.
That said, there's always a chance she will decide ur not with her time b/c you are fvking other chicks, but, considering get response to the convo last night, it's better to give her time and let her chase.
That said, there's always a chance she will decide ur not with her time b/c you are fvking other chicks, but, considering get response to the convo last night, it's better to give her time and let her chase.
flowtheory
Master Don Juan
I called her. It turned out to be the right play in this scenario.
Serenity
Moderator
Yes.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
In my opinion, Im not trying to say you didnt nail her right but the Women are the ones who always reached out first.
In2theGame
Master Don Juan
She also needs time to talk about your sex game to her girlfriends but you already called so too late.
Always she, that ensures you hold on to the masculine power/frame.
If it's you 1st then you're entering her frame where you play by her rules. And that's not natural.
flowtheory
Master Don Juan
Mm she has also never been one reaching out after dates. She le me pursue her. Always receptive. When I called she was pretty gung-ho to pick me down.
Maybe it doesn’t make one bit of difference. Because if both people are turning their keys for more, and it’s evident high interest is on both peoples minds.. it’s all good. Sometimes we overthink frame and scrutinize a bit much here
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Who Dares Win
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 16, 2012
- Messages
- 7,427
- Reaction score
- 5,805
Drop her a call, she wont feel pumped and dumped and there will be the chance to see her again.
Call her even if you dont wanna see her again, I forgot to call one few years ago and she basically started telling her (our) friends that i sucked and my di1ck was small....I basically had to show it to them to make that stop.
It was years ago, I wouldnt do any of that in the currect cultural setting.
Call her even if you dont wanna see her again, I forgot to call one few years ago and she basically started telling her (our) friends that i sucked and my di1ck was small....I basically had to show it to them to make that stop.
It was years ago, I wouldnt do any of that in the currect cultural setting.