"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Which posters are credible here???

dangdang

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Trying to get a feel for this place... Lots of conflicting advice. Some viewpoints just don't feel right, period.

That said, which posters have wisdom and experience here?

Thanks
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Marvin Gaye

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My input is that this forum is very ecletic, very diverse amount of members here which makes for an awesome place and busy forum!

Of course since it's so busy you get a lot of spammers, trolls, conspirAcy dudes, negative haters like the guy above me.

Whichever posters' advice you like best. Definitely trust your gut, and if some dude is spouting shyyet call him out on it!

That said, off the top of my head there are some posters who always make kickass posts. If you get the chance look these guys up:

Jophil
Backbreaker
Poonani maker
Bigneil
Squirrels
Vice
Atom smasher
Rollo tomassi

Just off the top of my head.

And one thing to keep an eye out for is woman hating here, most o the time its funny and all in good taste, but sometimes you just sense the bitterness in the posts here and you need to watch out for that!!

Welcome!!
 

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If you really can't work out who knows their stuff then you really need to get out there and make a few of your own mistakes first. If you've already done this then you need to start to actually think for yourself
 

JohnnyStorm

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Why not make up your own mind?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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bigneil

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It stands to reason that in a forum full of mostly men who fail with women, that the advice would be mostly wrong.
 

VladPatton

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It's a mixed bag, so take what you can from everyone and apply it to what you need via real world experience. What Marvin says is very true.
 

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You might look into how many reps they have (the green bar under the name)
 

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I have my share of favorite posters, but I won't say names. Because you need to think for yourself too.

Here's some credible advice for you and everyone else.

Take whatever advice you want and apply it. Not everything is gonna work for you. One person's advice might work well for him, but suck ass for you. Conversely, you might use his advice and it'll work much better for you than him. :D

At the end of the day, noboody's perfect, and experience is the best teacher that is for you. We just discuss sh*t around here, mostly opinionated. You gotta get your ass out and get some damn experience. Judge's orders.

Case closed. Acta non verba. :rockon:
 

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Toast and gspshields2 are definitely worth reading. Search under the bridges and you'll find hoards of posts by those two :crackup:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Marvin Gaye said:
My input is that this forum is very ecletic, very diverse amount of members here which makes for an awesome place and busy forum!

Of course since it's so busy you get a lot of spammers, trolls, conspirAcy dudes, negative haters like the guy above me.

Whichever posters' advice you like best. Definitely trust your gut, and if some dude is spouting shyyet call him out on it!

That said, off the top of my head there are some posters who always make kickass posts. If you get the chance look these guys up:

Jophil
Backbreaker
Poonani maker
Bigneil
Squirrels
Vice
Atom smasher
Rollo tomassi

Just off the top of my head.

And one thing to keep an eye out for is woman hating here, most o the time its funny and all in good taste, but sometimes you just sense the bitterness in the posts here and you need to watch out for that!!

Welcome!!

Bigneil? He's a f**king lunatic. You're better off taking advice from the bum on the corner.
 

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gpshields3 said:
Bigneil? He's a f**king lunatic. You're better off taking advice from the bum on the corner.
Gspshields3 on the other hang is a comedian

But yes bigniel is a hooker/stripper guru, he knows how to f**k the ones who take cash.

Have a green dot on me gsp3 :D
Edit- won't let me rep you, you must'be given me Lolz before
 

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No one.
 

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there are a lot of highschoolers and frat guys in college posting nonsense on these forums and a surprising amount of trolls as well, but theres definitely some older gentlemen here who are very wise and their posts are highly valuable. just try to filter out and ignore the garbage, look for the true gems that pop up here and there.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Marvin Gaye said:
That said, off the top of my head there are some posters who always make kickass posts. If you get the chance look these guys up:

Jophil
Backbreaker
Poonani maker
Bigneil
Squirrels
Vice
Atom smasher
Rollo tomassi

Just off the top of my head.
Yup. Seconded. Bigneil? Not familiar with his contributions.
 

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Agreed. Make up your own mind, and rep doesn't mean anything. There's a few people here with a lot of rep that sometimes give horrible advice.

-Scars
 

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secretasianman said:
this is a bad question to ask, its like asking for the answers to life. you need to just use your own intuition and try whatever you think works.
I agree, but I think some posters know what they are doing over others. I would have to throw out:

Aristippus: for finding girls with actual interest and not doing 100's of cold approaches hoping that someone likes you.

bradd80: for actually giving effort if she shows appears as a challenge instead of "Problem? Go NC and spin plates".

I mean there are other great posters, but I didn't want to repeat names.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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