"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Which posters are credible here???

dangdang

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Trying to get a feel for this place... Lots of conflicting advice. Some viewpoints just don't feel right, period.

That said, which posters have wisdom and experience here?

Thanks
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Marvin Gaye

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My input is that this forum is very ecletic, very diverse amount of members here which makes for an awesome place and busy forum!

Of course since it's so busy you get a lot of spammers, trolls, conspirAcy dudes, negative haters like the guy above me.

Whichever posters' advice you like best. Definitely trust your gut, and if some dude is spouting shyyet call him out on it!

That said, off the top of my head there are some posters who always make kickass posts. If you get the chance look these guys up:

Jophil
Backbreaker
Poonani maker
Bigneil
Squirrels
Vice
Atom smasher
Rollo tomassi

Just off the top of my head.

And one thing to keep an eye out for is woman hating here, most o the time its funny and all in good taste, but sometimes you just sense the bitterness in the posts here and you need to watch out for that!!

Welcome!!
 

MM92

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If you really can't work out who knows their stuff then you really need to get out there and make a few of your own mistakes first. If you've already done this then you need to start to actually think for yourself
 

JohnnyStorm

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Why not make up your own mind?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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bigneil

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It stands to reason that in a forum full of mostly men who fail with women, that the advice would be mostly wrong.
 

VladPatton

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It's a mixed bag, so take what you can from everyone and apply it to what you need via real world experience. What Marvin says is very true.
 

pdx1138

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You might look into how many reps they have (the green bar under the name)
 

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I have my share of favorite posters, but I won't say names. Because you need to think for yourself too.

Here's some credible advice for you and everyone else.

Take whatever advice you want and apply it. Not everything is gonna work for you. One person's advice might work well for him, but suck ass for you. Conversely, you might use his advice and it'll work much better for you than him. :D

At the end of the day, noboody's perfect, and experience is the best teacher that is for you. We just discuss sh*t around here, mostly opinionated. You gotta get your ass out and get some damn experience. Judge's orders.

Case closed. Acta non verba. :rockon:
 

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Toast and gspshields2 are definitely worth reading. Search under the bridges and you'll find hoards of posts by those two :crackup:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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gpshields3

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Marvin Gaye said:
My input is that this forum is very ecletic, very diverse amount of members here which makes for an awesome place and busy forum!

Of course since it's so busy you get a lot of spammers, trolls, conspirAcy dudes, negative haters like the guy above me.

Whichever posters' advice you like best. Definitely trust your gut, and if some dude is spouting shyyet call him out on it!

That said, off the top of my head there are some posters who always make kickass posts. If you get the chance look these guys up:

Jophil
Backbreaker
Poonani maker
Bigneil
Squirrels
Vice
Atom smasher
Rollo tomassi

Just off the top of my head.

And one thing to keep an eye out for is woman hating here, most o the time its funny and all in good taste, but sometimes you just sense the bitterness in the posts here and you need to watch out for that!!

Welcome!!

Bigneil? He's a f**king lunatic. You're better off taking advice from the bum on the corner.
 

Purefilth

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gpshields3 said:
Bigneil? He's a f**king lunatic. You're better off taking advice from the bum on the corner.
Gspshields3 on the other hang is a comedian

But yes bigniel is a hooker/stripper guru, he knows how to f**k the ones who take cash.

Have a green dot on me gsp3 :D
Edit- won't let me rep you, you must'be given me Lolz before
 

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No one.
 

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there are a lot of highschoolers and frat guys in college posting nonsense on these forums and a surprising amount of trolls as well, but theres definitely some older gentlemen here who are very wise and their posts are highly valuable. just try to filter out and ignore the garbage, look for the true gems that pop up here and there.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Marvin Gaye said:
That said, off the top of my head there are some posters who always make kickass posts. If you get the chance look these guys up:

Jophil
Backbreaker
Poonani maker
Bigneil
Squirrels
Vice
Atom smasher
Rollo tomassi

Just off the top of my head.
Yup. Seconded. Bigneil? Not familiar with his contributions.
 

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Agreed. Make up your own mind, and rep doesn't mean anything. There's a few people here with a lot of rep that sometimes give horrible advice.

-Scars
 

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secretasianman said:
this is a bad question to ask, its like asking for the answers to life. you need to just use your own intuition and try whatever you think works.
I agree, but I think some posters know what they are doing over others. I would have to throw out:

Aristippus: for finding girls with actual interest and not doing 100's of cold approaches hoping that someone likes you.

bradd80: for actually giving effort if she shows appears as a challenge instead of "Problem? Go NC and spin plates".

I mean there are other great posters, but I didn't want to repeat names.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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