You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Marvin Gaye said:My input is that this forum is very ecletic, very diverse amount of members here which makes for an awesome place and busy forum!
Of course since it's so busy you get a lot of spammers, trolls, conspirAcy dudes, negative haters like the guy above me.
Whichever posters' advice you like best. Definitely trust your gut, and if some dude is spouting shyyet call him out on it!
That said, off the top of my head there are some posters who always make kickass posts. If you get the chance look these guys up:
Jophil
Backbreaker
Poonani maker
Bigneil
Squirrels
Vice
Atom smasher
Rollo tomassi
Just off the top of my head.
And one thing to keep an eye out for is woman hating here, most o the time its funny and all in good taste, but sometimes you just sense the bitterness in the posts here and you need to watch out for that!!
Welcome!!
Gspshields3 on the other hang is a comediangpshields3 said:Bigneil? He's a f**king lunatic. You're better off taking advice from the bum on the corner.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yup. Seconded. Bigneil? Not familiar with his contributions.Marvin Gaye said:That said, off the top of my head there are some posters who always make kickass posts. If you get the chance look these guys up:
Jophil
Backbreaker
Poonani maker
Bigneil
Squirrels
Vice
Atom smasher
Rollo tomassi
Just off the top of my head.
I agree, but I think some posters know what they are doing over others. I would have to throw out:secretasianman said:this is a bad question to ask, its like asking for the answers to life. you need to just use your own intuition and try whatever you think works.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.