Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Marvin Gaye said:My input is that this forum is very ecletic, very diverse amount of members here which makes for an awesome place and busy forum!
Of course since it's so busy you get a lot of spammers, trolls, conspirAcy dudes, negative haters like the guy above me.
Whichever posters' advice you like best. Definitely trust your gut, and if some dude is spouting shyyet call him out on it!
That said, off the top of my head there are some posters who always make kickass posts. If you get the chance look these guys up:
Jophil
Backbreaker
Poonani maker
Bigneil
Squirrels
Vice
Atom smasher
Rollo tomassi
Just off the top of my head.
And one thing to keep an eye out for is woman hating here, most o the time its funny and all in good taste, but sometimes you just sense the bitterness in the posts here and you need to watch out for that!!
Welcome!!
Gspshields3 on the other hang is a comediangpshields3 said:Bigneil? He's a f**king lunatic. You're better off taking advice from the bum on the corner.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Yup. Seconded. Bigneil? Not familiar with his contributions.Marvin Gaye said:That said, off the top of my head there are some posters who always make kickass posts. If you get the chance look these guys up:
Jophil
Backbreaker
Poonani maker
Bigneil
Squirrels
Vice
Atom smasher
Rollo tomassi
Just off the top of my head.
I agree, but I think some posters know what they are doing over others. I would have to throw out:secretasianman said:this is a bad question to ask, its like asking for the answers to life. you need to just use your own intuition and try whatever you think works.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.