nightcrawler
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"can I have your number" or "what's your number" ?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Which is the better way of closing?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
nightcrawler
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I would hope you would know that before asking for the number:crackup:Pierce said:whats your name.
it shows more confidence.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
moneyisking
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whats your number. well, what i do is basically "ya that's cool, hey let me get your number" and hand my cellphone to her so that she can type it herself.
What you actually say when it comes to getting a number is not important. What's crucial is how much rapport you've built with the girl and how invested she is in seeing you again.
Logistically, the best way is to get her to send a text to your phone from hers.
Logistically, the best way is to get her to send a text to your phone from hers.
nateistoraw
Don Juan
I do this tactic to validate her number on site1
Whats your number?
And then I say imma call yours so you can get my number as well.
Even if the number is fake, she will say, oh wait, I gave you my old number or some bullcrap.lol.
Whats your number?
And then I say imma call yours so you can get my number as well.
Even if the number is fake, she will say, oh wait, I gave you my old number or some bullcrap.lol.
Tyson420
Senior Don Juan
If she didn't want to give you the number at first wouldn't that be an indication of disinterest?
What's the point?
What's the point?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
nightcrawler
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"can I have your number" seems to sound needy, while "what's your number" seems pushyTyson420 said:If she didn't want to give you the number at first wouldn't that be an indication of disinterest?
What's the point?
Trendsetter
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I like you, you seem pretty cool or I think you're cool, we need to talk more, what's your number?
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