nightcrawler
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"can I have your number" or "what's your number" ?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Which is the better way of closing?
- Thread starter nightcrawler
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
nightcrawler
Senior Don Juan
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I would hope you would know that before asking for the number:crackup:Pierce said:whats your name.
it shows more confidence.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
moneyisking
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whats your number. well, what i do is basically "ya that's cool, hey let me get your number" and hand my cellphone to her so that she can type it herself.
What you actually say when it comes to getting a number is not important. What's crucial is how much rapport you've built with the girl and how invested she is in seeing you again.
Logistically, the best way is to get her to send a text to your phone from hers.
Logistically, the best way is to get her to send a text to your phone from hers.
nateistoraw
Don Juan
I do this tactic to validate her number on site1
Whats your number?
And then I say imma call yours so you can get my number as well.
Even if the number is fake, she will say, oh wait, I gave you my old number or some bullcrap.lol.
Whats your number?
And then I say imma call yours so you can get my number as well.
Even if the number is fake, she will say, oh wait, I gave you my old number or some bullcrap.lol.
Tyson420
Senior Don Juan
If she didn't want to give you the number at first wouldn't that be an indication of disinterest?
What's the point?
What's the point?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
nightcrawler
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"can I have your number" seems to sound needy, while "what's your number" seems pushyTyson420 said:If she didn't want to give you the number at first wouldn't that be an indication of disinterest?
What's the point?
Trendsetter
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I like you, you seem pretty cool or I think you're cool, we need to talk more, what's your number?
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