nightcrawler
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"can I have your number" or "what's your number" ?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Which is the better way of closing?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
nightcrawler
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I would hope you would know that before asking for the number:crackup:Pierce said:whats your name.
it shows more confidence.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
moneyisking
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whats your number. well, what i do is basically "ya that's cool, hey let me get your number" and hand my cellphone to her so that she can type it herself.
What you actually say when it comes to getting a number is not important. What's crucial is how much rapport you've built with the girl and how invested she is in seeing you again.
Logistically, the best way is to get her to send a text to your phone from hers.
Logistically, the best way is to get her to send a text to your phone from hers.
nateistoraw
Don Juan
I do this tactic to validate her number on site1
Whats your number?
And then I say imma call yours so you can get my number as well.
Even if the number is fake, she will say, oh wait, I gave you my old number or some bullcrap.lol.
Whats your number?
And then I say imma call yours so you can get my number as well.
Even if the number is fake, she will say, oh wait, I gave you my old number or some bullcrap.lol.
Tyson420
Senior Don Juan
If she didn't want to give you the number at first wouldn't that be an indication of disinterest?
What's the point?
What's the point?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
nightcrawler
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"can I have your number" seems to sound needy, while "what's your number" seems pushyTyson420 said:If she didn't want to give you the number at first wouldn't that be an indication of disinterest?
What's the point?
Trendsetter
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I like you, you seem pretty cool or I think you're cool, we need to talk more, what's your number?
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